ADHD memes

I am self-employed and my boss is an incompetent jerk.

I've already punished myself with a pay cut.

I’m gonna sue my ass for what I did to me!

For me personally, the trick was realizing that:

1. I already know it needs to be done
2. I know I'll feel good for getting it done
3. I'm not lazy

And then realizing that time blindness has a huge deterministic impact on the causality chain of your life.

Imagine you are doctor Manhattan. Doctor Manhattan has clear view of his entire personal timeline. He knows exactly when he is meant to do what he needs to do.

ADHD makes you completely and utterly time blind at worst, or a bit tardy at average, or on time if you've developed great coping skills.

So the trick I realized is prioritization. You need to convince yourself that the present moment is the point on the timeline you were meant to complete this task.

Anyway I hope that makes sense to everyone. It worked a treat for me.

Edit:

Relevant fiction that helps cement these lessons. Watchmen (2009), Steins;gate (anime)

"Junk food as a reward" is something every expert I've ever heard talk about it says is a terrible idea, and I don't think this is unique to ADHD (just probably exacerbated by it). More generally, "Food as a reward" undermines healthy eating.

That brushes up against "well then when should I eat junk food? never?", and that's something I can't tell you. The most balanced mindset might be to treat it like many treat alcohol – both poison to your body – and eat something junky occasionally when you're out with friends or just want to relax one night.

But tying it into "I earned this" is detrimental psychologically, even if it feels natural to gate junk food behind effort so you (in theory, rarely in practice) don't overconsume. Imagine if you gave yourself a shot of whiskey every time you finished x amount of work.

Since reward system does not work for me, instead I punish myself whenever I could not finish tasks in time. I do not deserve any rewards anyway. Dunno why I feel so miserable...

Amateur,

You need to always have a bigger reward for the end.

If you are gonna have a cookie now, then clearly you need to have two when you’re done.

Unless you eat two halfway through…

My brother in christ, you are all I see in /new. How do you manage to average more than a post a minute? You're a meme machine

Legit. The only thing that works on me is the anxiety of letting other people down and being the weakest link.

If other people's dependency on me doing my job is removed, I will be that fuck who swirls in their chair all day, watches youtube and go on spontaneous walks.

1000%

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