I have so much evidence.
this post was submitted on 13 Mar 2026
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Isn't it just easier to learn not to care that people hate you? I can't control what others think of me. And I have no interest in changing any of that.
Maybe I grew up in a society where that's the default.
In some ways yes. But caring a bit impacts the strength of social connections, and humans are social creatures.
But i hate a lot of people with zero evidence...
Being LGBT I have sadly plenty of evidence of that
Lol. 90% of social interactions are pure evidence of that
Poor Mental health warps your perception of the world.
+1 step = ignoring you intentionally.
No evidence to be gathered, anxiety goes woooo.
I was about to say, like, nobody hates me. They just don't care about me.
If my obituary makes the papers, they'll be like, "oh".
I have mountains of evidence.
And they're not even wrong. lol
So, make sure to spend a lot of time looking for evidence. Gotcha.
This is my wife. It's frustrating and difficult to deal with sometimes. It's a disorder actually and there is therapy for it, although she never tried that.
...and? Society hates me. What individual people think of me is mostly irrelevant. And the accumulated trauma from a lifetime of having no place in this world and no identity have made it so I have to socially (and physically) isolate myself in order to be "okay."
But yeah, most people are probably fine with me. And that's comforting. But I'll never meet them or spend time with them.
Edit: sorry for the bleak comment. Sometimes "uplifting" posts can have this effect on me because I find that they rarely apply.
I do 100% feel this and do know that it often holds true.
But I've been dealing with a major episode of social rejection and abandonment from those who I felt fairly close to during a major life event. Happened over a span of several months last year culminating in the "climax" in early October before abruptly "ending".
But I still struggle to move past it. I am even still friends with the people this happened with. We have a lot of good times, but things happen where it resurfaces and then it's hard to get out of. :(
I've been in an intensive DBT program and while I have found it to be massively helpful for a lot of my base negative emotions, it doesn't really touch this one much.
I'm honestly at a loss of how to begin to resolve this one. Does this part need a different type of therapy after my DBT program is done?
Yep always assume that with every single interaction makes it impossible to be social.
Rant time:
My older brother hates me.
- he constantly fought me
- he used zipties on me when I was like... 5 or 6 and he was 5 years older
- constantly complains about me
- practically chased me out of the apartment that one time and I ended up in the streets of a major city... most scary day of my life, I was 6 years old
- the same thing as the line above, but in another city later on in my teens
- he beats me up at home when parents are away
- constantly says very bad things... and then add racism to it... implies other races are inferior and then claims that I'm "even worse" than those races... and he says it so casually its not a slip of the tongue out of anger... that's just his moral character
- tells mom that I don't deserve inheritance and he want it all
- then mom says shit like "I'm gonna give you nothing and give it all to [the other son]" to both of us... then he gets mad and implies he will murder me if mom did that...
ngl I kinda thought about having streaming apps on my phone so if an incident happens, I can livestream it if he tries to murder me...
I kinda just wanna disassociate with the culture and just blame all of this on the toxic Chinese culture honestly. It's easier for my brain to handle.
my wife kinda. drives me crazy.