Straight trans girls proving sexuality is not a choice once again.
this post was submitted on 06 Mar 2026
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In today's political climate, if you're going to tell them you're trans you'll want to do it before sex. Because depending on the political views of a random hookup, they might react violently if they find out after the fact. Saying you were born without a uterus because of a birth defect might be a good manipulation of the truth.
I think it's fine to just move past things. I don't think there's any obligation to just tell people you're hooking up with. Being proud of accomplishing what you have doesn't need to involve everyone else.
You could always just truthfully say "that's a weird thing to say to someone." I've never heard of anyone other than a gyno making comments about a woman's cervix.
I mean as a person who's really into sex with women and gets off fingering them, the only thing that seems weird is the phrasing maybe. I'm not sure a gyno is getting up in there with the same level of care and motivation as someone who really likes fingering women.
You don't just judge people by their cervix? You're weird.
I only judge a book by its cervix
I will keep this in mind 🙈
Do you have any way of knowing if they are transphobic before going on the date? This situations seems very risky
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It's perfectly valid to not wanna tell anyone, and it's also good to be proud of who you are and where you've gotten. I don't really know that there's a right answer here, it's probably one of those things that you need to feel out, kinda like him with your cervix.
I think you're right. It's a non solid answer. It's like the old saying about cheating. For some people, cheating means intercourse or kissing someone else. For others, you could fuck someone in a gas station bathroom and it's not cheating. Depends on the relationship.
The sharing of that information is an uncertain answer in my option. Not really sure.
Maybe an underlying thought is, are you fully who you are while withholding information? Is the relationship going to be 100% or will it feel like there's a secret?
Again, can't honestly say either way as it's not my situation.
So I'm a cis man and I hope I'm not intruding and hope I'll be helpful posting my take. I'm not taken to casual sexual relationships personally as I'm Asexual but if I were in your partners shoes I'd want to know in much the same way that I'd like to know if someone was a virgin beforehand. Its not something that would make me not want to hook up necessarily but I can imagine there are things that I could do differently that would make the whole experience better for both of us if I did know. That being said I completely understand the desire to move past that part of your life and I haven't personally been in a relationship with a Trans person before so please take this with a massive grain of salt. Good luck, I hope everything works out for you