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submitted 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago) by Catgirl@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
 

I met a guy for some kinky stuff and I normally don’t tend to tell people I‘m trans, as I have pretty much cis passing and prefer to live stealth. We had a lot of fun and he started to stick his fingers inside me. It was really intense and he reached spots I have never felt and it made me crazy. Afterwards, he told me that my cervix is kinda weird. And I was like „hu?“ and didn’t want to tell him that I don’t have one. So he told me that it feels kinda weird. And now I don’t know what to say about it, if he ever brings it up again.

I know its better to be honest about my past but something like that never happened before. I normally tell guys that I can’t have children, if I have serious intentions. But if I just wanna have some fun, why should I tell someone.

I kinda wanna be „done“ with this part of my life. But it feels kinda wrong to not be proud of my identity and keep it a secret. Idk 🤷‍♀️

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[–] CobblerScholar@lemmy.world 6 points 17 hours ago

So I'm a cis man and I hope I'm not intruding and hope I'll be helpful posting my take. I'm not taken to casual sexual relationships personally as I'm Asexual but if I were in your partners shoes I'd want to know in much the same way that I'd like to know if someone was a virgin beforehand. Its not something that would make me not want to hook up necessarily but I can imagine there are things that I could do differently that would make the whole experience better for both of us if I did know. That being said I completely understand the desire to move past that part of your life and I haven't personally been in a relationship with a Trans person before so please take this with a massive grain of salt. Good luck, I hope everything works out for you