Why do adults have to suffer because parents don’t know how to control their kids?
this post was submitted on 10 Feb 2026
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Because it's not actually about the kids, the kids are just the excuse. That's all they ever are.
So happy. Discord sucks.
Yeah, I agree. I hope Discord both fails as a company and as a concept.
Information siloed inside a non-easily searchable interface? No thank you.
I'm not threatening, I'm gonna do it. We'll see how my game jams go after this. I doubt my entire community will follow me.
Edit: I downloaded Element X for Matrix, and it seems to only be capable of creating a single chat similar to WhatsApp. Tried to download Revolt, and I cant get that one to even send me a verification code to my email. Starting of strong here...
Revolt is now stoat.chat. And I think they might be getting a little slammed with new users.
As someone who made an account a while ago, no issues so far.
Matrix allows you to structure rooms pretty similar to Discord. It's called a "space" that can then have rooms. Also Sub-spaces with more rooms. You can then manage access by inheritance or really granular on a space / room level. E.g. hidden / public rooms and spaces.
A few notes though:
- If you can create a space / room might depend on the Matrix server you are on and what capabilities the server admin gives you.
- There is always the option to completely self-host your Matrix instance - like Lemmy, Mastodon, etc. Depends on how tech savvy you are and if self-hosting is worth it to you ( can mean a ton of work).
- I am not claiming Matrix is a full on Discord replacement. Discord has it's advantages, but so does Matrix if autonomy, privacy, security are important to you. Matrix does have also neat features and bot-ability... but it's clearly not as easy as Discord. Good enough for many FOSS projects / communities though.
- IMO one key concept (besides decentralization / federation) that can be hard to grasp for new users is the concept of the recovery key that you get in addition to your username / password. Also does not help that there is "legacy" Element and Element X which add some confusion as they differ a bit in functionality.
- Personally I really like Matrix. Cinny might be an alternative client that might appeal more to you than Element. If you are into self-hosting tuwunel might be worth a look (or matrix synapse if you want to go with the OG server implementation)
Thanks for the tips! I only just downloaded Matrix. (Element X) to my phone. I'll have to do some more research on it. I personally could probably set up my own instance if I had to, work it to me, probably not. I mostly use discord for game jam hosting these days, and DnD with my friends. So, if the level of effort is high, or the barrier to entry isn't low, I don't imagine ill get a lot of people switching over to the new space. I guess we'll see what happens.
in element x you can't yet manage spaces. It's silly but it's a relatively new app and and development goes slowly for some reason. you can create the space in element web though, probably element desktop too because they are the same thing.
about the difficulty of registration. you could recommend an instance to them, so they don't need to choose themselves if they don't want to. I recommend one that has set up single signon and element call, and is medium sized (so that it is somewhat prepared for spam waves). https://tchncs.de/en/matrix/ is like that.
what would be even better is if it was using tuwunel instead of synapse, because the former is the more efficient matrix server software, but the other is good enough too.
if you want to put in some more effort, you can have some insight into matrix servers with this tool: https://federationtester.mtrnord.blog/?serverName=tchncs.de
- overview tab shows at top the server software and its version. synapse is official but very resource heavy for the operator, tuwunel is more efficient
- well-known tab can indicate element call support by having defined org.matrix.msc4143.rtc_foci with livekit. I can't believe there is no easier way to check this!
- single signon is supported when the element client's login page for this server allows signing in with external accounts, like github, google, tchncs.de account, etc.
and you can find a list of public servers to check here: https://servers.joinmatrix.org/
To play around you can either use Element X or go to https://app.element.io/#/welcome and use the Element web version. It's basically the same client. Then create your account with matrix.org - you should be able to create your own space + sub-spaces + rooms to play around with inviting users, get familiar with permissions, etc. There might be limits with video / voice calls - not sure about the public, free matrix.org server.
If Matrix is a good fit you can then look through the offerings of some of the respected hosters listed here: https://matrix.org/ecosystem/hosting/ Then you don't have to do everything yourself. They will maintain the infrastructure and your base installation and you can focus on being just the super user / admin (with your own domain) and build your community.
IMO the only real "hurdle" compared to traditional apps is that in addition to your username / password you also get a "recovery key". That's the key for encryption and people are not used to having an additional key. If you lose that key you can still log in and see new conversions but you will not be able to read old conversations that were encrypted using the old key. A workaround for your community might be to not enable encryption in your community rooms (when creating a room you can decide if its contents are encrypted or not). IMO totally worth the little bit of extra effort, but yeah - not something users are familiar with.
TIL people actually pay for nitro lol.
I've probably paid around 100€/$ in total (been occasionally using and gifting Nitro since 2019 and regularly for about a year). I'll definitely stop it and using Discord if they follow through with this.
People always ask why even paying users exist - simple, I am a paying user myself, and by that I hold the power to actually cut their revenue rather than just leave the platform.
This sucks. Fully leaving Discord will be hard for me. One server is functioning as a memorial to my Clan leader who died of cancer.
Maybe I need to research a method of archiving or migrating the data I have access to.
as soon as possible. you never know what could happen
I abandoned WhatsApp for Discord after meta got its greedy hooks into it. Do they think people won't just make a new account elsewhere and move on? Millennials have done it every two years ever since MySpace imploded after Fox News' Rupert Murdoch bought it. We have been conditioned to let our accounts go.
(Also text messaging, group chats, phone calls, and video calls are things that come standard on smartphones without need of an app. Texting stupid memes to everyone I know has never been easier. Maybe it's my age, but everyone I regularly talk to on discord is also in my phone. Oh noes, I'll have to "text" instead of "chat." The horror.)
How did you use Discord in place of WhatsApp? I found Discord incredibly slow to start up, buggy as hell and a pain in the ass to even jump to specific chats quickly in the UI and that was before they made it worse with the new UI.
I hate SMS and vastly prefer a real chat platform, in the US it's messenger/insta and in EU and much of Asia it's Whatsapp, line in Japan, kkaotalk in Korea, WeChat/weixin for China, and so on. Discord never crossed over to regular people in my experience for the most part (is the hot girl you met on it?).
I was in the military. Chat apps made it easy to keep up with friends and family even when we weren't all in the same country. (Poor international communications is definitely a downside of standard phone services). But all of us all are back stateside now and it's mostly been a gradual slide towards texting for my social group.
Yet again XMPP is ignored in the comments🥲
do it cowards. leave now.
My community just setup a Matrix instance and we're migrating everyone over. Several already cancelled their subscription.
I actually ran into a colleague in a random room, who is also leaving Discord.
It's pretty nuts, there's a big exodus going on.
Any guides? Been looking at Element but that set up is intimidating.
Are you self hosting? I just set up an instance today and it was extremely easy following the instructions for the ESS Community edition on github.
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Good! locking away potentially helpful Q&A, discussions, and guides on Discord is fucking stupid.
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Made by the same team that did s3nd.pics (the imgur alternative. Under heavy Dev at the moment but has promise.
Discord age restrictions prevent an underage user from viewing - but not sending - nude pictures.
This isn't to protect kids. It's to enforce increasingly authoritarian control over the web.
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