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for me, id have to say 7th and 8th grade, but mainly 8th. full of hormonal, crazy 13 and 14 year olds who harassed me, found my number and address, and treated me like a subhuman.

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[–] Alphamaddog@lemmy.ml 2 points 22 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago)

4th grade, Memphis Tennessee, bussing had just been implemented and I was "that yankee kid" from Chicago. A spate of new private schools sprang up over night so the racist white families wouldn't mix their kids. At first, everything was OK. Then the hate rhetoric from our parents starting making its way into the classroom. With the confederate stars and bars flag flying in one corner of the classroom and the Tennessee state flag in the other, the teachers didn't help much either. Daily paddlings (public principal spankings with a wooden paddle over the intercom) also did not help distract from the general prison atmosphere.

I was one of three caucasian children in my class and, being from inner city Chicago, didn't understand why everyone was panicky and flailing around as if the world were ending. Until the most athletic kid in my grade decided my innocent and accepting ways were to be punished. Daily I was encircled at recess, surrounded by twelve to twenty boys who tried to push and shove me, occasionaly punching (as well as any 4th grader can actually do that) while I tried to fend them all off. I had been in a few scrapes in Chicago by then and had two brothers, so though while I was angry and confused, I wasn't in true fear for my life. I could fight better than any of them. When I got past a point of over the top anger at this, I would punch someone in the face and they would go down. The others would back away long enough for them to leave me alone for the rest of recess.

That athletic kid I metioned earlier was their ring-leader. He mocked me ceaselessly and my uber-christian upbringing had me turning the other cheek, ignoring him. He did not like that reaction at all. So one day, while surrounding me again, the kid pulled out a small knife from his pocket. He pointed it at me, said he was going to stab me in the face and started walking toward me. Now that scared me into action. I ran toward whom I thought of as the weakest kid surrounding me, punched him in the face hard (again as hard as a fourth grader can hit) and kept running this time. The athletic kid caught me from behind and managed to cut a two inch gash just outside my right eye socket. I backhanded him in the face then and he finally went down, hitting his head on a big rock. Unlike in the movies, that big rock didn't kill him or even send him to the hospital, but I am sure it hurt a lot. I ran all the way to the principal who was always "supervising" the playground. I had some hope for help, until I remembered that she was the mother of the kid who had just knifed me. She had seen me punch him into a rock.

While I was home that week of my suspension, my uncle gave me a switchblade and taught me how to intimidate someone with it. I was never bothered again.

BTW, that part of me that didn't understand what all the racist fuss was about is still in me. I later learned why and how things got so bad when I was a history minor in college. It still pisses me off that so many 4th grade kids were getting along just fine until the racists parents "imparted" their values. Violence is never the answer. But sometimes a little intimidation can go a long way to preserving the peace.

[–] qwestjest78@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 day ago

I did have bad years in school as a kid because of bullies as well. I used to dwell on it a lot. I did conselling some years ago because it was affecting my confidence still and I am glad I did.

[–] PrivateNoob@sopuli.xyz 12 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Maybe 5-6th grade, where I was bullied since the 1st grade non-stop and one of my coping mechanism perchance thanks to my homophobe mom, was just being blatantly hateful towards this group, but bum bumm bumm this silly little me realized that I'm actually bi af in 5th grade, so that definitely dug my self hatred in an even more profound level. I needed 7 years to change my internalized homophobia into self love and coming out.

Life can be whacky, but I'm deeply proud of achieveing this feat.

Message to OP: Make a post some days later with the complete opposite question. Spread some positivity :3

[–] ApathyTree@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

From 5th grade onward I didn’t spend two consecutive years in the same school district. I was perpetually the new, weird, poor, neurodivergent, easy-target kid who sucked at making friends, so they pretty much all sucked in uniquely scarring ways. The best part is my parents thought they were doing me a favor by trying to find a school that would be good with my neurospice… We didn’t actually move from the time I was 9-16. Only me.

I have no clue how to make or maintain friendships and I desperately want to move cities, or at least homes, every couple of years or I get restless. Very glad I’m well educated, though, it makes the isolation that much more profound.

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago

3rd grade teacher killed himself.

6th grade, no teacher for half the year.

I didn't like any year in school, and honestly wake up every day happy not to have to go to school.

[–] fyrilsol@kbin.melroy.org 1 points 1 day ago

6th, 7th and 8th grade. I felt that they were the worst because, everything I remembered that was built up from the previous grades just fell apart. I was involved with an unhealthy friend circle and didn't really care for it, I lost the friends I actually cared for prior to this circle. Nothing felt that innocent and true anymore.

Then I would say Junior and Senior years of high school. I felt they were a great contrast to the more colorful freshman and sophomore years I had. I was starting to have feelings about how directionless I really was and how I felt I was going to be very lost after it is all over. I was also grasping to the fact that I may not have all of the friends I've acquired throughout my time in high school, something that wouldn't come true until about 18 years later where all but a few are just gone.

[–] Lushed_Lungfish@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 day ago

Up until highschool I would say. I was a scrawny little south east Asian kid with thick glasses and straight As who got bullied by a bunch of huge white kids.

Then puberty hit.

[–] CurlyWurlies4All@slrpnk.net 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Probably 9th or 10th grade. A group had ganged up on one of my friends. They bullied him mercilessly, shit in his locker, pushed and shoved him whenever they saw him. I wasn't the target but there was nothing I could do that would stop them. He cracked it one day and hit one of them after being harrased for 30 minutes straight, turned into a group brawl.

Our group of friends all got on well but we all felt like we were on the outer. Thankfully it got better in subsequent years after the worst of the bullies dropped out of school.

[–] 200ok@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

I'm sure he appreciated that you stuck by him, even if there was nothing you could have done ❤️

[–] ThunderComplex@lemmy.today 2 points 1 day ago

All of them. School was horrible. And not only did I have to fight with undiagnosed autism, the apartment I lived at had no heating and water didn’t drain so you had to shovel it from the bathtub to the toilet after showering or washing hair. It was all around torture.

[–] I_Has_A_Hat@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Yea, I'd agree with 7th and 8th. 13-14 year olds are old enough to be relatively smart and know what things can hurt others, but young enough that most haven't fully developed a sense of empathy. While most kids are relatively good, more than a handful will exhibit literal psychopathic tendencies that would get any adult labeled as highly dangerous or criminally insane. And they locked us all inside with them.

I'm not exaggerating when I say those were the darkest days of my life. High school wasn't much better, but holy shit middle school was definitely responsible for the majority of my childhood trauma at the hands of my peers.

[–] Blackfeathr@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

Probably 6th/7th grade. My mom joined the school board around that time and started ruffling a lot of feathers and in general being needlessly meddlesome. The teachers targeted me to try to get her to back off. They'd poke fun at me, "lose" the homework I'd turned in, mark my grades down for petty reasons, etc. That is also on top of the constant bullying by other students for being one of the Unpopulars™.

8th grade got a little better and then after that, I departed from that awful school district and the rest of my time in secondary school improved substantially.

my guess is i told a girl i liked/wanted to be friends with my address and she was popular/bullied me so she told the other popular kids but I can’t be certain

[–] bizarroland@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago
[–] sparkles@piefed.zip 2 points 1 day ago

Graduate school, without a doubt.

hard to say, all were so depressing, from the very start I had no one to talk to, changed schools countless times, never was able to develop any kind of long time friendship