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i really don't get it as an afab nonbinary woman, like i saw a post where a woman was complaining about not having a partner because "only theyfabs" asked her out.

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[–] Carnelian@lemmy.world 17 points 3 weeks ago

I mean honestly the trans communities on reddit felt totally botted to me, even a few years ago. My assumption is it’s just deliberate rage baiting and community disruption.

I’ve been out of there for a long time now, haven’t seen this particular expression. It’s pretty heinous, it seems basically like transvestigating, no? Like how could you interpret that other than an accusation of not really being trans?

[–] televisionhead@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

It is an awful transphobic term, made to prioritize one's AGAB over their gender identity. It's transmedicalist too in the perspective that it affirms that there are "other" less valid trans people.

Also, you're not the only one targeted by the term. Binary trans men (like me) have had it used against me to say my experiences weren't valid since there is a vapid dichotomy between the experiences of trans AFAB vs trans AMAB people.

It's a terrible transmedicalist and misogynistic term, made to divide us intentionally

thank you for your insight, i despise the term and i always feel "lesser" when i see it, especially since i'm "basically cis" by most people. im afab and identify as a nonbinary woman and i look like a girl.

[–] fracture@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

"i don't have a partner because [only theyfabs] asked me out" is an insane cope, that's a skill issue

[–] tomenzgg@midwest.social 4 points 3 weeks ago

💯💯💯

frfr, maybe shed have a partner if she wasnt like that

[–] jak@sopuli.xyz 4 points 3 weeks ago

Also, even aside from the transphobia and general shittiness, grow a goddamn spine and ask someone out yourself

[–] jahtnamas@slrpnk.net 4 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

the "theyfab" slur was used a lot in tumblr trans communities as well, there was a sort of transfem supremacy movement there.

Yes; the baeddels. They popularized its usage.