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[–] Ioughttamow@fedia.io 25 points 1 week ago (3 children)

When it comes to running shoes, women’s shoes have the better colors. I’d be jelly, except I order them and they work so yeah

[–] volvoxvsmarla@sopuli.xyz 10 points 1 week ago

I am rather petite and started shopping in the kid's section a while ago. They have much more colorful stuff! It's also often cheaper and better quality, more pure cotton or wool. I've bought wine red snow pants for 35€. The same store had options for women - in black or grey, for 70€. Same material, similar style. Just more boring. Don't even get me started on men's clothes...

[–] NachBarcelona@piefed.social 5 points 1 week ago

U wot?

My boy running shoes are pinker than my insides.

[–] Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Cries in AFAB with big feet

[–] Cevilia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Look up cross-dressing stores. A lot of drag artists have big feet, so the market for larger sizes of women's shoes isn't mainstream (yet) but it's definitely growing!

[–] NachBarcelona@piefed.social 1 points 1 week ago

I saw that KOTH episode.

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Zalando's got women's shoes in larger sizes, 45 EU included. Maybe there you could find some?

If that’s European, then I’m out of luck. Sadly, I’m in the US.

[–] regdog@lemmy.world 18 points 1 week ago

Another example are mens pyjamas and womens pyjamas. There is almost no shape difference between the two, but womens pyjamas have way better colors and prints available. I got an amazing pyjama with a pattern of black & browns cats. I would have never found that one if I did not check the womens pyjamas.

[–] CannonFodder@lemmy.world 18 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Wear whatever the fuck you want. What does gender have to do with it?

[–] nomy@lemmy.zip 12 points 1 week ago (2 children)

My hips and tits aren't shaped for womens clothing.

For real. Women's clothing just doesn't agree with where my fat gets stored. I want estrogen just so I can actually wear the clothes I want without getting crushed by dysphoria when they accentuate every masculine aspect of my body

[–] fracture@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

this is so real. dresses looked alright on me and then i became much closer to a bear and it's. less good.

[–] nomy@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 week ago

I have a few items that work but most stuff is obviously cut for a different figure.

The few items I can think of that fit well are all Eddie Bauer brand so idk if they do a more gender neutral cut or what.

[–] JoMiran@lemmy.ml 18 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (3 children)

I am a very masculine CIS man, but I got an amazing cardigan from Anthropologie, and I rock that shit.

I mean, look at this shit. It's glorious!

[–] regdog@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I don't think the picture is of him

[–] regdog@lemmy.world 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Sorry, tone is hard on the interwebs. Maybe I should have put a /j by my comment?

[–] regdog@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

My original comment was at -1 points, so I thought that no one was getting the joke.

But it turns out it was me who was not getting the joke 🤡

It's alright! tone is hard on the interwebs 😊

[–] Deceptichum@quokk.au 4 points 1 week ago

Anthropologie and I rock

Anthropologie rock

[–] zaphod@sopuli.xyz 1 points 1 week ago

It's a cardigan, nobody cares. It's when men start wearing skirts (not kilts though) that some people lose their shit.

[–] gray@lemmy.ml 15 points 1 week ago

Yes, but the sizing is hard. Every time I try out some cute femme clothes at the store I am afraid of breaking them in the fitting room.

[–] daannii@lemmy.world 14 points 1 week ago

Boxers for women are like $20 each. Boxers for men are $20 for a pack of 5.

I've been wearing men's boxers for years. Especially nice as pajamas.

Plus any gynecologist will tell you to wear loose bottoms with no underwear to bed at night, to air out the area.

Men's boxers do the job.

[–] tmyakal@infosec.pub 8 points 1 week ago

Eddie Izzard had that bit about people accusing them of wearing women's clothes, and Eddie would explain, "They're not women's clothes; they're my clothes! I bought them."

[–] ThunderclapSasquatch@startrek.website 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

All clothes are unigender, but that doesn't mean you'll lok great wearing it, for instance Noone wants my bloated ass in a miniskirt and halter top

[–] NigelFrobisher@aussie.zone 5 points 1 week ago

Noone is kind of a pervert though.

[–] djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 week ago

The Victorians really screwed fashion, don't let some old ghost tell you what you can and can't wear! Men used to wear skirts and blouses and stockings and exceptionally funny hats! You can too!