Autism

Absolutely

And I love that a few people have learned this about me.
One even once told me "Long enough for your earbuds." It was the best answer I'd ever gotten to that question.

This has happened to me in the worst possible way not long ago:

I got involved in a car crash (ugly thing, a truck hit me while I was in my car stopped in a traffic jam and the asshole was looking at his phone so he didn't see the cars in front of him) and ended in the hospital.

On thursday morning, they told me that they would send me to OR to fix my broken vertebra at 16.00. At 20.00 I was still waiting and nobody had given me a reason. At 21.00 they finally decided (after I got angry) to tell me that I wasn't going to OR due to an unexpected emergency. I'd be having the surgery instead early in the next morning.

At 11.00 of that next day I snapped because I was still waiting without any information at all and couldn't hold it anymore so I started yelling. They knew (I told them) that I was autistic. They decided to ignore my constant request for even the slightest info to make the wait more bearable, I ended up yelling and I was told that I was acting childish.

I went to OR at 14.00 that day.

Worst time ever I've spent in a hospital.

Wait. I thought this was an ADHD thing.

Since when has 'how long will it take' been considered rude?

But asking the time something takes is a completely normal and valid question? I have never encountered a situation where someone would think asking for a time frame would be rude or impatient. Maybe this is a cultural thing, since I'm finnish and our norms can be a bit different at times

I've adopted "should I do something else and come back?" as a less-affronting way to ask this question. It's not perfect, but it usually gets me decent results.

Solution: stop talking to people.

Straight up. I recently had to get my car serviced for a recall, and was told I'd be contacted when the parts came in. Fast forward a month, and I had to call them up because I hadn't been called or anything. Turns out, the parts were already in and they just forgot about me. I was really annoyed about that, not because of the time waiting, but rather because I just hadn't been told what was happening

Similarly, when I took my car in, I just told them I'd be hanging around the area. They took this as "needs to be done asap", when I would literally be fine if the process took 8 hours. I've got my steam deck, I'm good

Sometimes neurotypicals assume you're being needy when all you want is an accurate time frame

My wife did not understand at all. Still insists that I'm just impatient.

This is why Medical clinics really need to adopt the automatic call system already that rings your cel phone for when your appointment draws near and actually gives you a number of how many people are ahead of you.

Like am I a coffee away from my appointment or can I go get a massage

I mean this is basically the exact same for neuro typical people, the only difference is the ability to understand the social cues.

I hate being in waiting mode (unless I'm at the location I must wait at) and it's just hhh especially in video games. I could be doing other quests but no. I'm waiting for three other people to get here because they don't give a fuck ten people are waiting on them.

Pretty much every post on here: Thing that everyone thinks or does, perfectly normal behavior.

Mfw somebody has internality and a schedule 😡

This could be in ADHD Memes, too. Or if there were a "my version of relaxing is doing things but I don't want to get interrupted during my relax time" community, if one existed.

You've got me in the first half.

I mean... I am impatient, but under the dictionary definition of "being quickly driven to irritation." Not whatever bullshit definition it has in common usage relating to waiting for a thing.