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I know places like Portugal and Spain are going through serious housing crunches right new and I know expats often exaggerate those problems. So where can an American flee oppression without just oppressing someone else?

For context: I'm a progressive lefty, thinking about long term relocation options cause the fash is getting pretty thick around here.

Edit: I know immigrants and expats (US or other) are not solely responsible overseas housing issues, but housing issues definitely exist across Portugal, Netherlands, etc. I don't want to increase that burden and would feel shitty if my housing offer outbid 300 local applicants.

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[–] acchariya@lemmy.world 14 points 3 days ago

The whole thing about Americans causing housing crunches is absolutely ridiculous. The total number of Americans in Spain is something like 68k, and many of them can be assumed to live together or with Spanish spouses who would need housing themselves, so the impact on housing is a rounding error.

Another thing to remember is that a lot of these Americans in Spain are children of Spanish citizens that were born in the US to avail of US citizenship, which is not uncommon in families with the means to do it.

You are not oppressing anyone if you move to a new country and make an effort to integrate, follow their laws, and leave the country cleaner and better than you found it, or don't leave the country and begin to contribute to its tax base and social system as soon as you can do so.

Source: American trying to integrate in France.

If you bring lots of money there are quite a few countries that are just fine with Americans showing up.

Also, quite a few countries are welcoming if you expend the multi-year effort to assimilate and contribute, and definitely not waste people’s time with unsolicited comparisons between their country and your former homeland.

[–] mrmaplebar@fedia.io 16 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Do you feel oppressed by the immigrants who live in your country?

I think you're buying into the right-wing idea that simply being an immigrant is somehow a form of oppression.

Immigrants are not to blame for the housing crisis. The housing crisis facing much of the world has to do with a growing population, a lack of housing development, and a market that treats housing like little more than an investment asset.

[–] Goldholz@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 days ago

Growing population? Not where the housing crisis is

[–] Witchfire@lemmy.world 90 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (3 children)

I moved to Canada and have only felt welcomed. The trick is to not be an asshole, give people a reason to want to be your friend.

[–] SaveTheTuaHawk@lemmy.ca 4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

The trick is to not be an asshole

a big Challenge for my Boomer American neighbor. All he does is spew right wing bullshit but he won't move back to New York because of our healthcare.

[–] Witchfire@lemmy.world 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Isn't their whole thing complaining that Canada is a "socialist hellhole"? Wtf is he doing up here? Half the provinces don't even have privatized liquor stores

[–] yakko@feddit.uk 3 points 3 days ago

They don't believe the shit they say, don't get tricked

[–] Statick@programming.dev 15 points 4 days ago (3 children)

What was the process like?

[–] Witchfire@lemmy.world 24 points 4 days ago

Very difficult and full of unprocessed grief

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[–] Jakeroxs@sh.itjust.works 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

How cold is it? Native Texan and lived in Ohio for a few years but the winter was brutal, thinking about CO though I know winter is pretty rough there too.

[–] Witchfire@lemmy.world 9 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (2 children)

Last winter was pretty brutal. It didn't stop snowing for like two months. There would be an extra 2" (5cm) of snow every time I opened the door. Temperatures vary depending on where you are but can get pretty cold. Parts of Quebec are infamously cold. Toronto has been chilling around 20F (-6C) but can drop close to 0F (-17C) at times. Overall weather in Toronto is closest to Buffalo or parts of the northeast. Buffalo is only 2 hours away, for reference.

That said, the cities are absolutely prepared for winter. Many of them even have sprawling underground pedestrian networks, like the PATH in Toronto or the RÉSO in Montreal. Most people have winter tires. Outside the cities it's a bit harsher though

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[–] yakko@feddit.uk 7 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

As an American I've been living in the UK for almost 5 years now, and I can safely say I've never met anyone who hates America as much as me. 💪🏻

Correction: I have met other Americans who might.

[–] ViatorOmnium@piefed.social 49 points 4 days ago

Immigrants that accept that they are immigrants or self-described expats?

As long as you don't try to make your surroundings a mini-'Murica you should be fine everywhere in Europe.

[–] bitofarambler@crazypeople.online 44 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Hey, yup!

I've been traveling for 15 years in 30 countries and most people are very receptive to respectful American tourists, especially if you take an interest in the culture and learn the standard greeting. They love it if you like the food, which i am very good at!

Everyone asks where I'm from, and nobody is upset when I tell them the US.

In vietnam, they love it because they kicked our ass in the war.

[–] gusgalarnyk@lemmy.world 25 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Moved to Germany. I feel very welcome here. Theres a very similar political problem growing in Germany, several large political parties that either want things to get only slightly better or a lot worse, and a growing fascist party that wants to enrich themselves by hurting other people. But it doesn't feel close to the tipping point like the US is, so I still recommend it.

I always feel welcome, except for a drunk white German here and there yelling at me for not knowing the language (I'm working on it, but languages have always been hard for me).

There's a housing crisis everywhere and immigrants are not the problem, it's the fact that housing is a financial investment vehicle and the wealthy are only getting wealthier while most everyone else is getting poorer. You're not oppressing people by moving to their country and paying taxes. You're the villain if you dodge taxes, are a landlord (and aren't fighting to tear down the current housing system), or have 5 million+ and aren't fighting to help people and fix the system.

[–] clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.works 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)

What mechanism did you use to get there. Just a work visa? Any path to eventual residency or citizenship?

[–] gusgalarnyk@lemmy.world 13 points 4 days ago

I worked for a company in both countries - so I was fortunate enough to use the Blue Card visa. If you can make that work, that lets you work anywhere in the EU which is great for back up.

Path to permanent residency in Germany takes 3 years, low language skill, and a civic test. Will be doing that in 2026.

Citizenship takes 5 years and medium language skill. I'm a bit away from that.

Generally, I think the path to citizenship is fair but the easier they make it the better the country will be (to a point I guess).

[–] menas@lemmy.wtf 4 points 3 days ago

You mean "US immigrants" ? Housing is expansive because of tourism, speculation and secondary house; not immigration. If yo want to not spread oppressions, get along with organization that fight the rise of fascism where you are going, and helping people oppressed by the US state in US and elsewhere. Do not think you helping the people you are joining in avoiding their struggles. This is yours now

[–] Randomgal@lemmy.ca 21 points 4 days ago (1 children)

The people? No. Their money? Yes.

If you spend big in a community, you'll be treated well, you'll be an 'expat'.

If you're poor, you're an immigrant and you are ruining the count.

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[–] underreacting@literature.cafe 30 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Are you American left, southern Europe left, eastern Europe left, or northern Europe left?

[–] porcoesphino@mander.xyz 12 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Any chance anyone is willing to define these for those of us that are a bit ignorant?

[–] BuboScandiacus@mander.xyz 4 points 3 days ago

Eastern Europe’s left is like western Europe’s right

[–] czardestructo@lemmy.world 13 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (2 children)

Greek American's take: from left to right it gets more progressive, pointing out that even progressive Americans are still conservative in Scandinavia.

[–] frank@sopuli.xyz 10 points 4 days ago (2 children)

American who lives in Scandinavia now:

Yup. Bernie Sanders would be pretty center here imo

[–] leftzero@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 3 days ago

Center-right, really.

Your run of the mill moderate conservative.

And I think most of western Europe would see him that way.

He only looks progressive by contrast with his dystopic environment.

[–] Bronzie@sh.itjust.works 4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Agree as a native.

Nothing to crazy about what he wants to achieve. The crazy part (and I respect him for dedicating his life to it) is to attempt it in the US of all places.
The amount of bat shit crazy that has been allowed to rear its ugly head since the last election is impossible to wrap my head around.
Super happy Mamdani won NYC. It shows that there are places in the US we can still relate to.

To answer OP: Personally I don't care where you are from if you integrate and contribute to society. I haven't met many Americans here, though...

[–] frank@sopuli.xyz 4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

There are dozens of us, dozens!

Super happy about Mamdani as well, especially as a NYer. The state of the US has been really rough for years but just especially ramping up recently. It's cool to see the opposition to it rise up, and I love supporting it as much as I can from afar.

Men jeg er så glad for, at jeg har flyttet til Danmark

[–] Bronzie@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 days ago

Du valgte feil Nordisk land, ellers gratulerer med nytt liv her i nord!
Du får komme en tur opp til oss hvor det er fjell, fjord, laks og folk som snakker forståelig, min venn.

God Jul!

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[–] jarvis@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago

Left of most American left. Co-ops, labor unions, UBI, wealth tax, and universal healthcare, but also reparations, general strikes, land back, etc.

[–] FistingEnthusiast@lemmynsfw.com 33 points 4 days ago (1 children)

It depends

In Australia, we're happy to have people come here who will contribute to our society

Trump supporters aren't liked here, and we have great sympathy for people moving here from 'Murica to get away from the bullshit

My fiancée is from the US, and we're working on her visa

There are amazing opportunities here, particularly if you are interested in living outside of the big cities like Melbourne and Sydney

[–] Chef_Boyargee@lemmy.world 11 points 4 days ago

That’s the general consensus I’ve (we’ve) experienced so far as well. Ex federal US employee, now employed in Brisbane. We couldn’t be more grateful for the acceptance we’ve received

[–] 1984@lemmy.today 14 points 4 days ago

Never had any problems with Americans anywhere.

Portugal dislikes all immigration because it has ruined their housing market and made it impossible for natives to buy homes at their salary level.

Maybe its Americans buying houses but they dont really dislike Americans as people. They just want their home country to work for people who live there.

[–] Zedd00@lemmy.dbzer0.com 29 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Albania LOVES Americans. There's a bunch of history that boils down to America helped make Albania and Kosovo exist. There are statues here of a bunch of former US presidents. Americans even get better visas than anyone else. It's a 1 year automatic visa on arrival. If you don't apply for a residency permit in that year, you have to leave for 90 days, then you can stay for another year.

Albania is still developing. Everything has a little more friction than in the US. Quick examples; no Amazon, no real freeways, no drive thrus. The bureaucracy is very much like "papers please". There aren't a lot of local jobs. The language is hard to learn fluently, but it's possible to get by day to day with a few phrases and Google translate.

The people are amazing. The food is great. The entire country is beautiful. If you stay out of Tirana, rent is really affordable. Every time you meet someone, they'll ask why you're here because everyone wants to move to America.

[–] MagicShel@lemmy.zip 6 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Interesting. My grandpa was Albanian. Not that he ever talked about it, really. Or maybe I was too young at the time to listen.

Anyhow, I'm glad we weren't dicks to his people. There aren't many countries you can say that about.

[–] Goldholz@lemmy.blahaj.zone 21 points 4 days ago

I mean i dont mind americans per se, more so do i dislike the loudness and disrespect they often bring. But speaking as partner of an imigrant living in germany, jobmarket is hard even for natives. And you need to be fluent in german

[–] SaneMartigan@aussie.zone 7 points 4 days ago

I like the few Americans I know in Australia.

[–] zxqwas@lemmy.world 10 points 4 days ago

If you get a job and pay your taxes Scandinavian countries most people don't mind.

[–] flamingo_pinyata@sopuli.xyz 8 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

I'd aim for countries that have few American immigrants, like Eastern Europe, South America, anywhere but Thailand and Japan in Asia... Of course avoid those actively hostile to Americans.

Alternatively somewhere English-speaking so you'd barely stand out - Canada, UK, Australia

Actually most countries in the world have little American immigration. Avoid Spain, Portugal, Mexico, Thailand, Japan, most small Caribbean countries (I guess). The stereotypical "expat" places.

It's like any kind of immigration. A small number is always welcome, but once many immigrants of the same origin come you get social cohesion issues.

[–] BuboScandiacus@mander.xyz 2 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

You won’t oppress anybody

What you said sounds like so be far right thing about immigrants stealing people’s housing

[–] zlatiah@lemmy.world 7 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Speaking as an immigrant wannabe who personally investigated a lot on this... not ones that I'm aware of. At least I don't know any countries that are both 1) what I'd imagine most Americans are willing to relocate to, and 2) have preferential or at least very "easy" paths for immigration for Americans. Maybe there are some for those with a "lucky" ancestry, but from my understanding that's it

Netherlands technically "appreciates" American immigrants because of the DAFT, but that doesn't really answer the question... NL isn't that easy to move to, and from what I've heard a lot of people don't end up making it on DAFT. Their job market is a bit screwed-up at the moment and they have a very significant housing shortage as well

Still, I think there are lots of countries that welcome aspiring immigrants who have in-demand skills (and some, with significant wealth), as long as one is willing to adapt to that particular new country/culture. If one is competent in a language that is not English that list grows even longer

I think there are lots of posts on this on r/AmerExit and r/IWantOut... lots of delusional posts, but a good bit of not-so-delusional ones too

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