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[–] fannin@hexbear.net 2 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I can't seem to be able to push past the initial withdrawal insomnia. How did you do it?

[–] take_five_moments@hexbear.net 1 points 5 days ago (1 children)

slept like shit for 2 months. like, there's no way around the adjustment period you just have to do it.

[–] fannin@hexbear.net 2 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I think I could deal with sleeping like shit but sleeping not at all is so hard

[–] take_five_moments@hexbear.net 1 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

if the goal is to get sober you'll have to learn how to sleep without it anyway. gotta give your body time to adjust. and you have to give yourself patience for that adjustment.

[–] fannin@hexbear.net 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Yeah but I mean my willpower gives out and I down a 12 pack to be able to sleep for a bit and it never really feels horrible unless I don’t eat food on that day

[–] take_five_moments@hexbear.net 1 points 4 days ago (2 children)

yeah i completely understand, it was and is still very hard for me, but i had also been working change with a therapist specifically surrounding distress tolerance so i've been working on leaning into that discomfort. maybe try going sober for a night when you don't have anything to do the next day so it won't matter if you're a tired sack of crap, see how it goes.

[–] fannin@hexbear.net 2 points 4 days ago

Forgot to reply to about two thirds of this, apologies. I never have anything to do because since I lost my job as a pentester I’ve been a NEET for like two years and I just thank my fucking luck I’ve not been in any financial jeopardy (immediate I mean) as a result

[–] fannin@hexbear.net 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I think I’ve talked to various therapists for maybe four years now without it helping and i think they can’t help because the problem is me

[–] take_five_moments@hexbear.net 1 points 4 days ago (1 children)

gotta believe you can change

[–] fannin@hexbear.net 1 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Yeah so it’s kind of weird that the official state sanctioned recovery program, AA, teaches the exact opposite

[–] take_five_moments@hexbear.net 1 points 4 days ago (1 children)

yea aa has been mostly dogshit in my experience. i don't go to meetings.

[–] fannin@hexbear.net 1 points 4 days ago

I saw them actually force a member to remain unemployed instead of taking a job offer because it would β€œhurt their recovery”

[–] jh6AZStb@lemmy.ml 16 points 1 week ago

Proud of you comrade

[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 16 points 1 week ago

Congrats! That's some solid clean time.

[–] Big_Bob@hexbear.net 15 points 1 week ago (1 children)

yeah, I take my suffering raw yes-chad

[–] reallyzen@lemmy.ml 8 points 1 week ago

I don't. Replaced it with 3 different meds 🀒

[–] ThorrJo@lemmy.sdf.org 12 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Congrats! I quit weed about 3 months ago. May not abstain forever but I needed a reset in my relationship with it, plus if I do pick it back up it will be edibles only, I don't need any more lung damage.

[–] Moss@hexbear.net 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'm in the exact same position, I was coughing myself to death and still smoking weed. I also quit earlier this year. Good luck to you!

[–] SickSemper@hexbear.net 9 points 1 week ago

Hell yeah just hit 3 months. Love to see it comrade

[–] Infamousblt@hexbear.net 8 points 1 week ago

Hell yeah comrade. Always good to hear when folks are taking care of themselves and their health

[–] godlessworm@hexbear.net 7 points 1 week ago

CONGRATS COMRADE alcohol is seriously fucked and its abuse is way too normalized and even encouraged

[–] MidnightPocket@hexbear.net 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] take_five_moments@hexbear.net 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] MidnightPocket@hexbear.net 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Yeah, that's what worked for me the one time I pulled it off for a couple years.

[–] take_five_moments@hexbear.net 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

idk, real answer is it took getting fired from a really shitty job and a lot of therapy to get used to the idea of not being a drunken mess every night. my partner threatening to leave was just the icing on the cake.

[–] MidnightPocket@hexbear.net 1 points 6 days ago

Sorry that times are dark but you've got this comrade.

[–] Chana@hexbear.net 5 points 1 week ago

Hell yeah I bet that feels great

[–] ghosts@hexbear.net 5 points 1 week ago

Congrats!!! That's huge!! Next huge accomplishment: 8+ months + 1 day

[–] peeonyou@hexbear.net 5 points 1 week ago

awesome! feels good!

Congrats, that's not easy

[–] mrfugu@hexbear.net 4 points 1 week ago

Hell yeah chillin hard

[–] ColonelKataffy@hexbear.net 4 points 1 week ago

great accomplishment, comrade.

after being a daily drinker through my 20s into my 30s (especially 2020-2022), one night i consumed alcohol + weed + psilocybin extract in mezcal (my first mushroom trip) and i completely lost the taste for alcohol a few months later. It tastes like rubbing alcohol and headaches instead of freedom and escape. i'm extremely relieved that this happened without any mental effort on my part, i just lost the urge to drink alcohol. daily weed consumption hasn't abated tho

[–] nothx@hexbear.net 4 points 1 week ago

Fuck yeah dude! Congrats!

[–] InternetLefty@hexbear.net 4 points 1 week ago

lets-fucking-go LET'S FUCKING GOOOOOO

[–] Aradino@hexbear.net 4 points 1 week ago

Excellent work. I'm proud of you.

[–] AOCapitulator@hexbear.net 3 points 1 week ago

Congrats comrade!

[–] Beaver@hexbear.net 3 points 1 week ago

Great work!

[–] 9to5@hexbear.net 3 points 1 week ago