I can't seem to be able to push past the initial withdrawal insomnia. How did you do it?
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slept like shit for 2 months. like, there's no way around the adjustment period you just have to do it.
I think I could deal with sleeping like shit but sleeping not at all is so hard
if the goal is to get sober you'll have to learn how to sleep without it anyway. gotta give your body time to adjust. and you have to give yourself patience for that adjustment.
Yeah but I mean my willpower gives out and I down a 12 pack to be able to sleep for a bit and it never really feels horrible unless I donβt eat food on that day
yeah i completely understand, it was and is still very hard for me, but i had also been working change with a therapist specifically surrounding distress tolerance so i've been working on leaning into that discomfort. maybe try going sober for a night when you don't have anything to do the next day so it won't matter if you're a tired sack of crap, see how it goes.
Forgot to reply to about two thirds of this, apologies. I never have anything to do because since I lost my job as a pentester Iβve been a NEET for like two years and I just thank my fucking luck Iβve not been in any financial jeopardy (immediate I mean) as a result
I think Iβve talked to various therapists for maybe four years now without it helping and i think they canβt help because the problem is me
gotta believe you can change
Yeah so itβs kind of weird that the official state sanctioned recovery program, AA, teaches the exact opposite
yea aa has been mostly dogshit in my experience. i don't go to meetings.
I saw them actually force a member to remain unemployed instead of taking a job offer because it would βhurt their recoveryβ
Proud of you comrade
Congrats! That's some solid clean time.
yeah, I take my suffering raw 
I don't. Replaced it with 3 different meds π€’
Congrats! I quit weed about 3 months ago. May not abstain forever but I needed a reset in my relationship with it, plus if I do pick it back up it will be edibles only, I don't need any more lung damage.
I'm in the exact same position, I was coughing myself to death and still smoking weed. I also quit earlier this year. Good luck to you!
Hell yeah just hit 3 months. Love to see it comrade
Hell yeah comrade. Always good to hear when folks are taking care of themselves and their health
CONGRATS COMRADE alcohol is seriously fucked and its abuse is way too normalized and even encouraged

hell yea
Envious. Any tips?
have something to lose
Yeah, that's what worked for me the one time I pulled it off for a couple years.
idk, real answer is it took getting fired from a really shitty job and a lot of therapy to get used to the idea of not being a drunken mess every night. my partner threatening to leave was just the icing on the cake.
Sorry that times are dark but you've got this comrade.
Hell yeah I bet that feels great
Congrats!!! That's huge!! Next huge accomplishment: 8+ months + 1 day
awesome! feels good!
Congrats, that's not easy
Hell yeah chillin hard
great accomplishment, comrade.
after being a daily drinker through my 20s into my 30s (especially 2020-2022), one night i consumed alcohol + weed + psilocybin extract in mezcal (my first mushroom trip) and i completely lost the taste for alcohol a few months later. It tastes like rubbing alcohol and headaches instead of freedom and escape. i'm extremely relieved that this happened without any mental effort on my part, i just lost the urge to drink alcohol. daily weed consumption hasn't abated tho
Fuck yeah dude! Congrats!

LET'S FUCKING GOOOOOO
Excellent work. I'm proud of you.

Congrats comrade!
Great work!
Letsgo