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[–] take_five_moments@hexbear.net 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

slept like shit for 2 months. like, there's no way around the adjustment period you just have to do it.

[–] fannin@hexbear.net 2 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

I think I could deal with sleeping like shit but sleeping not at all is so hard

[–] take_five_moments@hexbear.net 1 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago) (1 children)

if the goal is to get sober you'll have to learn how to sleep without it anyway. gotta give your body time to adjust. and you have to give yourself patience for that adjustment.

[–] fannin@hexbear.net 2 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

Yeah but I mean my willpower gives out and I down a 12 pack to be able to sleep for a bit and it never really feels horrible unless I don’t eat food on that day

[–] take_five_moments@hexbear.net 1 points 6 hours ago (2 children)

yeah i completely understand, it was and is still very hard for me, but i had also been working change with a therapist specifically surrounding distress tolerance so i've been working on leaning into that discomfort. maybe try going sober for a night when you don't have anything to do the next day so it won't matter if you're a tired sack of crap, see how it goes.

[–] fannin@hexbear.net 2 points 6 hours ago

Forgot to reply to about two thirds of this, apologies. I never have anything to do because since I lost my job as a pentester I’ve been a NEET for like two years and I just thank my fucking luck I’ve not been in any financial jeopardy (immediate I mean) as a result

[–] fannin@hexbear.net 2 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

I think I’ve talked to various therapists for maybe four years now without it helping and i think they can’t help because the problem is me

[–] take_five_moments@hexbear.net 1 points 4 hours ago (1 children)
[–] fannin@hexbear.net 1 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

Yeah so it’s kind of weird that the official state sanctioned recovery program, AA, teaches the exact opposite

[–] take_five_moments@hexbear.net 1 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

yea aa has been mostly dogshit in my experience. i don't go to meetings.

[–] fannin@hexbear.net 1 points 4 hours ago

I saw them actually force a member to remain unemployed instead of taking a job offer because it would “hurt their recovery”