Have a little bird companion.
this post was submitted on 29 Oct 2025
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Be a Disney princess
Or a big one, I won't judge.
Yeah, but how?
short answer: medication
long answer: you can figure that out tomorrow
You just do. It's that easy! /s
It’s simple, not easy.
First step: put the phone down
Second step: what did I say!
It's really a bunch of separate tips. For example if you've got to clean the apartment, just try to clean the hallway first.
But the secret rules are what makes it fun!
Depends on who made the secret rules. If they're my own secret rules that only I need/want to follow, they're obviously great and a lot of fun, but if they're secret rules by others and they expect you to know them, then those are the kind of secret rules that suck.
I see what you're saying but I have to disagree. Figuring out the secret rules behind everything is a interesting puzzle. In fact, once I've mastered the secret rules of a workplace or social group I often rapidly lose interest because it's no longer a challenge. That's why I love my public-facing job, new people to figure out every day.
That's a good point, and I agree that it can be fun to figure them out sometimes. For me, it's the rather strict enforcement of these often arbitrary rules by society in so many importants parts of life that makes me miserable.
Secret rules are interesting and motivational when you're discovering them, and crippling once they become a routine. This post is saying to skip these unnecessary practices and do it the way that suits you.
What's "until" and secret rules?
Until: "I can't start the dishwasher until there are more dishes in there." (You can just start the dishwasher without a full load and you'll have clean dishes for later.)
Secret rules: "You should only run a dishwasher when it's full for maximum efficiency." (It's your dishwasher and you can use it as inefficiently as you wish, you dont have to think about efficiency all the time. If you want clean dishes later, start the washer now no matter how much it'll clean.)
I read "Organizing for adhd individuals" (paraphrasing title, it's been a sec. ill find the real title later if you're interested) and the author makes a good point about how little unspoken assumptions get amplified by ADHD and add small costs that add up to killing our energy. The author made a point that if you design systems that don't require you to think about these small things, organizing gets easier.
Her example was cleaning and putting away socks: her clients dread having to match socks to put them into a drawer, so they hold off on doing that. Her solution was to make it so that assumption isnt even in play: just buy socks that all look the same. Then you can just dump them into the sock drawer unmatched. (Personally, i just decided that I dont care that I wear non-matching socks. And my life is better for it!)
You know what? You're absolutely right!
It's been at least 3 hrs since I J-ed off! LFG!!