They act like they like you sometimes but then act like they don’t, like saying they love you or showering you with compliments and then pushing you away.
this post was submitted on 15 Sep 2025
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The difference between 'leading someone on' and just being in a relationship is entirely internal, based on the internal states of each person. Partner A is 'leading on' Partner B if they present signals to Partner B to suggest they have intentions of a more serious relationship while actually having the intention of forming only a lesser, or even antagonistic relationship. If any part of that is not true, they are not 'leading them on' though there are other, similar ways for it to be unhealthy. As for signs, it depends on the ability of each partner to deceive Partner B. If Partner A is good at lying, rationalizing, etc. there may be no signs from them. And if Partner B is good at self-deception, they might fool themselves without A having to deceive them at all.
Good comment. Thanks a bunch!
What exactly do you mean? Like the other person not wanting to get married?
Pretending to like someone, I think
Assuming you mean in the beginning stages of dating or a flirty friendship? Small things like laughing at your stupid jokes, making you feel like yall are on a team and stick up for each other. Also making you feel like they MAKE time for you. Random acts of kindness. It should feel like a partnership and not one sided.
In my experience, when those things start fading, it’s done.
I think I am leading her on, then. I stopped giving her gifts or showing her affection and stopped texting her as much but I still want to be in a relationship with her. I keep her along as my girlfriend but I admittedly don't do much, I don't kiss her.
Please let her go then. Maybe yall can stay friends, but that’s selfish behavior. I’ve been on the other end and it really sucks.
Too late. She said goodbye and let me go.
Not really related, but this is one of the many reasons why I've never been able to be in a relationship. I don't feel that way about others, so faking it feels wrong to me. I went out with a guy a couple of times and felt gross doing that. So that's about it.
Sometimes it's frustrating that I can't have an intimate relationship with someone that way, but what can you do? Have to go through life with the cards you're dealt, I guess.
Hopefully you meet someone and it makes sense.
If not, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being happy with yourself.
That kinda sounds like you're just aromantic
Giving high end compliments Making you feel like you're incredibly special to them Not being clear as to where you are with them Making you feel exclusive