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Might help also to describe what you think feminism is, since it's one of those terms that is overloaded.

I once had a physical therapist tell me she wasn't a feminist because she thought women couldn't be as physically capable as men when serving as soldiers, and seemed to believe feminism requires treating women exactly like men.

I told her I was a feminist because I believe in equal rights for men and women, an idea she did not seem so opposed to.

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[โ€“] Sunsofold@lemmings.world 15 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I call myself egalitarian. It distinctly means what you mean by feminist without being so readily confused with what she means by feminist.

[โ€“] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 days ago (2 children)

ironically I think it's more confusing, if I tell someone I'm an egalitarian they honestly might not know what that word means at all, whereas at least if I say I'm a feminist they are closer to understanding that I'm in favor of women's rights ...

What my physical therapist considers "feminism" is not something I generally take seriously as a real meaning of feminism, it's a strawman, and it feels wrong to me to cede the meaning of the word to something so contrary to the actual context of what feminism is (both historically and in its present forms).

There are a variety of feminisms, but none of them advocate for the kinds of things my PT believed, so ... I don't know, it doesn't seem reasonable to only call myself an "egalitarian" and not use the term "feminist".

[โ€“] Sunsofold@lemmings.world 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I place the result of 'What's an egalitarian?' as better than the die roll as to whether they will take it as one or the other, or even a third interpretation. If I say egalitarian, and they can't define it, they'll probably go into a questioning mode, which helps make them more open to discussion. The number of people who could define it AND be against it would be minimal. On the other hand, feminist has become almost an epithet to a significant chunk of the English-speaking world. It's a word that shuts down empathy and critical thinking for those people, even if they couldn't define it, which your anecdote helps show it can be hard for people to do at any rate.

[โ€“] DrQuickbeam@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago

Don't get too caught up in nuance and small strains of academic philosophy here. The difference is clear:

Egalitarianism is a philosophy that asserts equality among all people. An egalitarian holds the belief or principle that all people are equal and should be treated equally.

Feminism is a social movement born out of the pervasive and systematic disenfranchisement, oppression and abuse of women, which holds to an egalitarian philosophy of equal rights between men and women. A feminist is an advocate for the equal rights of women.

One is an abstract idea that influences modern humanism, liberalism and democracy. The other is a struggle to make that ideal a reality, that has a different face in every different time and place that it's happening. Both are virtuous.

[โ€“] Core_of_Arden@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 day ago

I guess I'm a feminist, but I don't really call myself a feminist. I call myself a humanist, maybe even an environmentalist, because I believe that all humans, and animals, and the environment should have rights, and should be protected against greedy, scared and powerhungry (sick) individuals.

I consider myself egalitarian

I feel like the term Feminist gives too much of an impression that I tolerate or encourage misandry, which I certainly do not. That and if you look at feminist groups throughout history TERFs have been the norm, not the exception.

Egalitarian, because sexism cannot be tolerated no matter which direction it's facing.

[โ€“] Mangoholic@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 days ago

If feminism is defined as equal rights for all things that are not gender relevant I agree. But there are a lot of really good exception, where it makes sense that we acknowledge differences. Like pregnancy, physical differences and so on. In short everything that can be equal should be.

[โ€“] nutbutter@discuss.tchncs.de 38 points 3 days ago (19 children)

I am a feminist.

Feminism means all genders should be treated equal, but that does not mean men should also get paid menstrual leaves at their job. Equal rights, yes. Everyone should be treated fairly.

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[โ€“] daniskarma@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 2 days ago (4 children)

I do believe gender is a social construct that's becoming outdated. And that we shouldn't have nor woman nor men, at all.

Make of that what you want.

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[โ€“] RBWells@lemmy.world 8 points 2 days ago

I will say yes, because I am a woman who has benefited from what feminists did in the past, and don't believe in strict gender roles for men or women, and my kids were all born as girls, I had to work a lot to get them good education, my focus has necessarily been more on advancing the lives of girls than boys, I didn't get boys until I married.

I think humanity as a whole is stronger when women are stronger. Empowering women empowers men too, when we all do more we are stronger, it's not a zero sum thing.

So yeah I think so, yes, soy feminista.

[โ€“] KeenFlame@feddit.nu 5 points 2 days ago

It means if you think women should have the same rights as men. I am a feminist.

I would call myself a feminist because I believe in equality. You know, fuck sexism.

[โ€“] DavidDoesLemmy@aussie.zone 26 points 3 days ago (23 children)

I don't believe in an -ism. I believe in equal rights. I think the name feminism does more harm than good.

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[โ€“] brygphilomena@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 2 days ago (2 children)

I think I'm more egalitarian. But this is largely dependent on what you mean by feminism.

I believe all women should have total agency over themselves. I believe they deserve equal pay, treatment, and rights. I believe them when they discuss their issues and the prevalence of sexual assault and abuse.

I also believe that there are structures in our society that unfairly put them above men. For instance, in child care and criminal sentencing. Women tend to get the benefit of doubt that they are the better parent and that the relationship between a child and a mother is generally more important than that of a child and father. Women also, in general, get lighter sentences for the same crime.

I believe that we should be more equal in the value we place on the relationship between a child and it's father. Raising the importance of how we as a society view that relationship rather than bringing down the importance of the mothers relationship.

I also believe we should lighten the sentences of men to be more in line with women's sentencing. Although that largely falls in line with my personal opinion that criminal sentencing in this country is far, far too harsh.

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[โ€“] monovergent@lemmy.ml 29 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (5 children)

There are various schools of feminism, some of which have conflicting opinions. But the common feminist standpoints, like equal rights, seem to be just common sense for me, especially in this day and age. I'm not sure where the requirement for equal physical ability fits into the equation.

At least for me, going out and saying that you are feminist carries a sort of special connotation, and since I haven't participated in any explicitly activist events related to feminism, I wouldn't readily emblazon myself with the feminist label even though I stand by those ideas.

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[โ€“] niftybeaks@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 day ago

My definition of feminism is roughly: People of all genders share equal legal rights and social respect. This doesn't mean biological differences aren't real or shouldn't be considered.

So yes, I consider myself a feminist as I have defined above. I do support biological segregation of things like athletics. I say biological since there are obvious outliers when it comes to hormones, muscle mass, and reaction time differences between the biological sexes.

I see feminism as a component of minimizing heirarchy and moving toward anarchy.

Instead of the liberal conception of rights, I would use equality of individual liberty and social solidarity regardless of gender or sex. Definitionally, I claim gender as performative and sex as related to procreative genitals. Maybe it's all just worbs, that is, political words without meaning.

Those in favor of heirarchy use "equality of outcome" as a bludgeon. Humans do not need "equality of outcome". We need autonomy to make choices about our lives. We need societies that take care of each other. Heirarchies such as patriarchy prevent making choices and taking care of each other.

As a bonus rant, the rube statement, "What is a woman?", can be answered with, "Who is pink for?". The provocateur wants to conflate gender and sex, but is too embarassed to come out and discuss genitals. A logical follow-up for the embarassed trap-setter could be, "Which genitals taste the best?". The point being don't entertain traps with anything but hostility.

I know posting is masturbatory, since I often fail to read replies. I'm sure your reply will be great and I will probably fail to read it. I'm still working on social solidarity.

[โ€“] SorteKanin@feddit.dk 19 points 3 days ago (3 children)

I prefer the term egalitarian or something to that effect. I definitely fall under the definition of a feminist, but I think it's sort of ironic that a term for equality has an inherent bias for women in the word itself, even if it is not the intended meaning.

I think the word itself has actually harmed the movement significantly. Turns out the words we use matter a lot. So again, I prefer a more neutral sounding term, like egalitarianism or equal rights.

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[โ€“] AcidiclyBasicGlitch@sh.itjust.works 5 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

Yes, bc I support equality. That's it. That's all it means. I try to treat others the way I would want to be treated. I try not to be an asshole to others. I know sometimes I fail, but I don't go out of my way to do it. If somebody tells me I did something incorrect or hurtful, I don't get offended, I just try to do better in the future if I see them again.

I didn't know that supporting feminism was just supporting equality until I was an adult bc nobody ever taught me that. It's not really surprising to me that some people attach other meanings to the word (both positive and negative), or that some people are opposed to it because of whatever negative things they may have attached to it.

It is still very surprising to me that there are people who will openly admit they're just strongly opposed to equality. From my perspective, if you're opposed to equality, that means you're opposed to treating others as you would want them to treat you. You're intentionally being an asshole, and you kinda forfeit any expectations of respect from other people. I still believe you're entitled to the same rights as anyone else, but getting called out for being an asshole is not a violation of your rights. Equality means it's ok to be an asshole to another asshole. That is feminism to me.

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[โ€“] Wahots@pawb.social 16 points 3 days ago (4 children)

JK Rowling and the other TERFs have kinda ruined that term just like the american right soiled the flag.

I prefer "egalitarian" at this point, less loaded, and gender inclusive. I'm one of those radicals where I want non-traditional families, no gender roles, and all the vanilla straight stuff to all exist side by side in harmony.

Also, women's clothes needs real pockets. And men need cuter clothes like shortalls. That's a world I want to be a part of :)


The one thing I'm not egalitarian about- straight men need to be taught to pee sitting down, or at least lift the seat, damn. I know it's not all of you, but there are a couple of animals out there that need help. :p

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[โ€“] hoagecko@sh.itjust.works 13 points 3 days ago* (last edited 32 minutes ago)

(This comment uses translation software.)

Yes. I am a feminist, though I am skeptical.

Some feminists argue(Article in Japanese) that the gender equality brought about by feminism also liberates men from the suffering unique to them.

I take a similar stance, believing that the 'gender equality' brought about by male feminism, which seeks happiness for men, also liberates women from the suffering unique to them. In some ways, I am a reactionary feminist.

Previously, I was a male feminist with old-fashioned thinking, striving to eliminate only women's suffering, not men's.

However, I changed my mind after the Japanese government, where I live, adopted a policy of allocating "female admission quotas" at prestigious universities, including national universities, as part of its affirmative action program, modeled on America's racial admission quotas.

Even back when I supported traditional feminism, I was critical of the current state of university education in Japan, where there are public women's universities but no public men's universities. I also believe that expanding these quotas to general universities would violate the Constitution, which proclaims gender equality. I cannot trust traditional Japanese feminism, which supports the unconstitutional status quo, and that is why I have become the skeptical feminist I mentioned earlier.

[โ€“] wizbiz@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 2 days ago

Yes. Because we should strive to treat everyone equally

[โ€“] glowing_hans@sopuli.xyz 8 points 2 days ago

I support freedom of women to make their own decisions and live their live as they see fit. I think this makes me a feminist.

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