Unpopular Opinion

I'm with you here. It does look nicer when it's all "setup" but for its purpose, I agree... makes no sense if I'm going to be under the covers anyway. Society plays stupid games and well... you know the rest.

Generally I agree, and am so deep in the habit of not making my bed that it's never a thought in my mind. That said, if you or someone you might be sharing the room with is experiencing any kind of hard emotional state and feeling overstimulated, then making the bed as well as other general cleanup can make the space less noisy. In that context it can be therapeutic.

I sleep by myself (well, with my dog, but she doesn’t ruffle the sheets). For me, making my bed is as much as flipping the bed sheets back once I get out of bed. It takes all of one second when I get out of bed; and yes, it looks nicer.

But, no judgement, so you do you.

Ps. It’s only a big deal if you make it a big deal. 😊

It makes it more comfortable to sleep in.

I have absolutely no idea where that comes from. Do you all sleep like Dracula? My bedding is usually tussled about within minutes of me laying in bed. Blankets balled up for knee support, one leg sticking out for temperature venting. I couldn't imagine sliding under the covers and laying perfectly supine like Vladimir Lenin.

Lol, it's not about "laying perfectly supine", it's about what you are laying on. Yes, you will probably get a couple of small wrinkles by just getting in bed and getting comfortable, but if you never make your bed you will be laying on hundreds of very big wrinkles. To me the comfort level of laying in a made bed and a super messy one is night and day. If you can't tell a difference, consider yourself lucky.

Pro tip: instead of balling up your blankets for knee support, keep an extra pillow on your bed specifically for that purpose. I have an old "king size" pillow I use that supports me from balls to ankles. It has helped my back tremendously.

I thought the one thing to worry about with the bedsheets is not to grow a large population of mites in them. So you mainly want to keep it ventilated.

Only if you get nothing from it.

Where it is nice is when you want to lie down you don't have to untangle the sheets.

You just lie down and the sheets are perfect.

Also its nice to tuck them in at least partially to make it easier to make.

I like to be able to sit or lie on my bed after a long day without it being lumpy.

For me, I like to make it for t o reasons. First, in opposition to your first point, it does make the bed more comfortable. I can skip a day, but any more and the covers are too messed up for me to be comfortable. I don’t sleep like Lenin or Dracula. I’m a side sleeper and I roll around multiple times in the night, but I like the room cold at night, so I like the covers in place.

Second, I learned this from a grand parent I think, and I passed it on to my kids. If it’s the first thing you do in the day you’ve started the day on a good note. You completed something. Admittedly, when I was younger, this didn’t matter to me at all. As I’ve gotten older, it makes a little bit more difference.

You don't need to remake the bed just for sitting on it, you just need to adjust the bed sheets for five seconds.

Firstly, I respect your opinion as I probably shared it in the past.

Secondly, we're obviously talking about making the bed as in after you wake up. Making the bed as in fresh linen is an amazing feeling and absolutely worth while once every few weeks.

Now, to rebut your comments...

1. It makes it more comfortable.

This is a silly reason, and I don't see how it's true.

It does however make bed time feel calmer and more soothing somehow. In my 20s I didn't care about quality sleep because you just bounce back from anything. In my 40s I do think about things like what might contribute to the perfect night's sleep. Having a shower, putting on clean pyjamas, and climbing into a nice bed in a tidy room just kinda sets the scene for a good sleep.

2. it doesn't take much time so you may as well do it

any task not worth my time to be a waste

this is subjective. Your whole argument may as well be "I don't value having a made up bed", which would be fine, but that's not an unpopular opinion so much as a personal preference.

Regardless, you don't "make" the bed the same way you make it when putting on fresh linen. You just flick the covers straight. It takes less time than scratching your ass.

3. It looks nice. And an unmade bed looks lazy

It's kinda weird how often people do see our bedroom TBH. Usually it's someone using the toilet in the en-suite when the other toilet is in use.

4. It's a good example for our kids

There's no way our kids would keep a nice tidy bedroom if we didn't.

It looks nice. And an unmade bed looks lazy.

These are two separate reasons and I only subscribe to the former one.

And I do it because I think it looks nice. It makes me happy when things look clean and tidy. Messy, while less work and sometimes more functional, perhaps, still makes me feel worse in my own home. I don't make my side of the bed to impress my wife. In fact, I get kind of annoyed when she doesn't make her side. But she has mostly wonderful qualities besides that, so I'm okay with it.

Either way, you're not exactly complaining that we like to make our beds, but I'm trying to let you understand that it's not always about some kind of principle or to impress, or otherwise useless reason. Sometimes it's just what makes you feel good. 🙂

I don't do it because I'm lazy, and I'm just going to pull it apart again in a few hours.

… said someone who isn’t interested in having a relationship?