They wouldn't do scams unless they worked sometimes. I pretty firmly believe that anybody can fall for a scam given the right circumstances. Shame is a normal response in these situations but it's not because you deserve to be ashamed. Frankly it's brave of you to come forward with it. Give yourself some grace.
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My sibling was just telling me that our dad spent a hour on the phone with one of those people and that he didn't get suspicious until they wanted him to transfer all of his money to a Paypal account.
Unfortunately it’s almost a rite of passage in modern capitalist society (probably outside of it too for all I know) to fall for one of the hundreds of scams that come from hyper-competitive, alienating system that pits people against each other for a paycheck (plus scams are typically pyramid schemes on the inside - so even their exploitation of you is likely being exploited by someone).
I’ve been crimed a few times, a few ways (first years moving from the middle of nowhere to a major city is rough when you don’t have street sense yet), and it always sucks but it passes (occasionally leaving a good story behind), and one learns from it to avoid it next time (e.g. I won’t give financial info over the phone any more).
It hits differently as communists too since we’d all give the shirts off our backs to someone in need (as we’re able), but instead capital uses the ‘shame’ around poverty to coerce people into the anti-social behavior of scamming one another.
Hope the financial pain isn’t too much- the embarrassment hurts enough as it is - but better to be open and sort it out than let it fester.
It sticks to be rewarded for being cynical and suspicious of other people. Maybe not "rewarded" not "not punished" for being trusting. You know what I mean...
For sure - I’ve had the benefit of being 6’ tall and large since I was 10 lol otherwise my naïvety would be far more self-destructive
I got scammed a couple months ago as well. I founded a startup and got a lot of letters in the mail from several official registries telling me to pay X fee. Turns out one of them was a scam and I paid a non-insignificant amount of money for nothing 
Feels bad but sometimes they just get you. Consider how many scams you didn't fall for, your score is probably pretty good.
Are these people calling and offering you a loan or what? I can't really imagine how this kind of scam plays out
I once fell for one of those steam esports league scams, so I kinda know the feeling of realising what just happened
Everything looked ok, the steam login was real, and yet I almost gave up my api key