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[–] samus12345@lemm.ee 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Sometimes I just delete it, sometimes I go ahead and post it and hope nobody responds.

[–] Adiemus@lemm.ee 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You could open a second account and agree with whatever you wrote.

[–] samus12345@lemm.ee 5 points 1 day ago

Or disagree with myself. That would be more interesting. Abusive sock puppeting.

[–] RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world 29 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Yep.

Flippant, mildly humorous comment, one sentence: (2,345 👍) (123💬)

Well thought out, reliably sourced reply of one to two small paragraphs: (3👍) (0 💬)

[–] Eyedust@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Lemmy is actually better on this. I get a lot of upvotes for well thought-out long posts and comments here as well as humorous one-liners. I've been pleasantly surprised that people actually take the time to read out my longer posts. On reddit it'd probably just get lost and be another 1 thumber that never got read.

The key is also to make your story interesting. Something that pulls your reader in. Be personal and amicable. Realize you're talking to real people and speak to those people in your writing. I'm more of a creative writing buff. I managed to eek out 98th percentile for creative writing in my SATs. I love writing. Its my favorite thing to do. I want to be an author. I fucking hate my ADHD. I've started a hundred books at least and either bore myself or tell myself its a stupid plot, even though I have friends and family begging for me to finish something.

My early books were written in small notebooks. The old ones that sorta looked like they had cowprint covers with a title on them. They'd get passed around the school for weeks. I'd get them back and people would keep asking me to continue. I never did. Fuck me, I hate ADHD sometimes. But your words are alive. They can heal, hurt, cause laughter and tears, and, above all, words can influence anything. Words are power and, as long as you are careful of that power, you can write any damn length you want.

Honestly, my fear now is AI. I like AI, but I don't want to write a book and have people claim its AI or AI assisted. I'm regretting not writing one earlier now.

tl;dr: Is k. Writ stuf.

[–] LaserTurboShark69@sh.itjust.works 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Sorry your comment was too long I got bored halfway through

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[–] ArtemisimetrA@lemm.ee 7 points 1 day ago

Sometimes multiple times in a row.
Sometimes on the same post.

[–] TheThrillOfTime@lemmy.ml 28 points 1 day ago (3 children)

I have to remind myself engaging is mostly useless.

[–] vegantomato@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

Your engagement is valuable for current or future shareholders of the company owning the platform. It is of paramount importance that you engage as much as possible. Although not enough, we would recommend for example, sleeping 7 hours instead of 8 to make time for engagement such liking/disliking and commenting.

[–] ameancow@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago

I've lived through the times when online discussion was considered "just weird internet stuff, not to be taken seriously" and then people grew up and everyone used the internet and it was the frontier of communication and was "shaping all facets of society" and now we're back at "just weird internet stuff, not to be taken seriously."

[–] sfjvvssss@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago (3 children)

When I read bs here I'm always switching between this and "if no one calls this out, people might assume it's true".

[–] fibojoly@sh.itjust.works 6 points 1 day ago (4 children)

Duty calls. Someone is being wrong on the Internet! 🦸

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[–] starman2112@sh.itjust.works 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Happens on this platform too

I've written paragraphs and paragraphs about how calling someone stupid is not ad hominem. I've gone 20 comments into a thread trying to explain how analogies work. I'm currently in several arguments about the fact that water is, indeed, wet.

[–] samus12345@lemm.ee 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

"wet - covered or saturated with water or another liquid."

I gotta go with the people you're arguing with on this one. Something has to be able to be dry to be able to be wet. Certain liquids can make other things wet, but cannot be wet themselves.

[–] starman2112@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (6 children)

Wet can also mean consisting of liquid. You wouldn't bat an eye if I said not to touch the wall because the paint is still wet. The inclusion of a clause about something being "able to be dry" is an arbitrary inclusion specifically meant to exclude water itself, not based on how we use the word, but based on a facile desire to force the definition to fit the way you think it should.

[–] samus12345@lemm.ee 2 points 1 day ago

I'm gonna do the thing this meme is talking about and just say you're right.

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[–] bitjunkie@lemmy.world 13 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Someone gave some advice on a forum or a blog or something a long time ago that really stuck with me and completely altered my outlook about social media and interacting with people via the internet in general:

Before you hit "send", ask yourself whether this is for your benefit, or that of those who will see it.

I basically stopped using socials after that, because I seldom thought of anything that followed this rule, and my feed was so full of garbage from people who also didn't, but saw fit to post it anyway. The internet has given society an ego masturbation problem.

deletes his own comment without posting it after realizing he was wrong after defending what he now no longer believes in, for seven paragraphs

[–] iAvicenna@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

"and suddenly you remember most readers of your comment will be bots"

[–] ameancow@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

And the few humans there will go "I ain't reading all that"

[–] Donkter@lemmy.world 166 points 2 days ago (14 children)

It hits for me when I'm typing it out and I can already read the braindead response they're going to type and I don't want to spend another 2 paragraphs preempting the obvious response and I definitely don't want to wait a few hours/days to explain why they're still wrong.

[–] entwine413@lemm.ee 80 points 2 days ago (5 children)

Me when I realize the person I'm commenting to is from hexbear.

[–] towelie@lemm.ee 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Or you say fuck it and send the comment, but you refresh the page and he's downvoted it faster than a human being could have read it lol

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[–] OmnipresentDonut123@lemmy.world 22 points 2 days ago (20 children)

When you're 20 minutes into an argument on reddit and suddenly get permanently IP banned for saying something that didn't even break rules

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[–] Soleos@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Hello ADHDers! It really is a health management skill to catch yourself and pull away. The worst is when you do care about the topic and you know you're mismanaging your time, it doesn't actually matter, but you can't not "finish it so at least it's out there"

[–] Eyedust@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yup. I do this 100%. But mostly it's because sometimes I get so hot on the subject, it feels good to get it out there and then I worry I was too brash about it. A trick I use is to leave the comment written on my phone in the background. Maybe I'll send it, but more often than not I clear it out when I clean up my background apps and go, "Well, that was decided for me."

[–] Kentifer@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

This is a good trick. I use this trick. Not often enough, but still.

[–] Tattorack@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yep. Me sometimes. Like you know the answer. It's simple and logical. The other person is obviously wrong and defending their position badly... But then you realise it's stupid to try and waste your time on a subject you don't even care about, to a person who cannot be educated.

[–] Kentifer@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

But they have 3 upvotes and I'm at -2. Clearly everyone in this subreddit is wrong and I need to make them see that. (And then hate myself for it later on)

[–] VinnyDaCat@lemmy.world 27 points 2 days ago

Reddit? Nah that's literally every platform.

[–] glitchdx@lemmy.world 43 points 2 days ago (7 children)

"I didn't have time to write you a short letter, so I wrote a long one."

i wanna say Mark Twain said that, but I'm not 100%

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[–] cRazi_man@lemm.ee 73 points 2 days ago (21 children)

Here's a tip for how I've improved my social media experience greatly:

Stick to a rule of 1 comment and no further replies.

Strangers online are not going to be convinced by your point of view and there is nothing to gain from getting into a back and forth conversation. Unless it's a particularly positive or productive conversation about a particular interest you share....there's nothing to gain from arguing online and lots of potential mental damage you risk.

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[–] mavu@discuss.tchncs.de 21 points 2 days ago (4 children)

If I was the owner of Reddit, i would 100% save in-progress comments, and keep the unsent ones in the database for my enjoyment.

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[–] Dicska@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

I find myself tapping Ctrl+A -> backspace faster than I can react to it myself. Life is too short for waiting for the little cursor to travel all the way back.

[–] JATtho@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

I do this, and I have a "graveyard log" file where I paste my discarded posts and replies.

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