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Could it be "over another person"? Asshollery is kinda universal
This. The worst person I've ever worked with happened to be a woman. She was an awful human being.
I'm so guilty of talking over other people and I hate it. Please fix me.
Especially in online meetings with no camera. Without seeing body language, I often think people are done talking so I start talking, but they were just resting between sentences. Oof.
Online is the worst--I think the slight delay is a big factor as well. We both start before either realizes the other was speaking and it's very uncomfortable.
But also I'm just a bad interrupter. I often have an idea I'm so excited about I just blurt it out without even thinking about the fact that someone else is in the middle of speaking. I don't know why I'm like this, I've tried to stop and I have made some progress but it still happens way too much. Best progress I've made so far is rudely start talking, realize 1 second later I should not have, apologize, and tell the other person to keep going.
One thing that kinda helped for me is realising that nobody will care about my point, if they're still thinking about the point they want to make themselves. Realising that helps me wait.
Only downside is that I then sometimes miss other points, and sometimes also forget my own point still.
Have you've been checked for adhd? I have some friends with it and they tell me about similar scenarios
I’ve had a lot of people, including professionals hypothesize that I might have it. When I was younger I was very opposed to psychiatry and behavior altering meds so I didn’t really take them seriously or cooperate with their attempts to find out. But I think it’s possible.
I'll echo what others are suggesting and say give it a look.
I went undiagnosed for years and really struggled with a number of things. I'd talk over people, interrupt, and finish peoples sentences (to name a few that may resonate with you.) I was consciously aware of what I was doing and frequently battled the urge to do it. I eventually went and got diagnosed ...and holy hell what a difference it made. It was no longer urgent to express an idea before it was lost to the "noise." It wouldn't hurt to speak with a doctor / specialist about it; you have nothing to lose and potentially a lot to gain.
Realizing you want to improve is the first step to growing into a better person!
If they had something more important to say they would say it louder
I'm in the same boat, but one day I just stopped talking and started listening, mostly as a social experiment on myself. Now everyone thinks that I'm really smart. It tears me up inside sometimes, but I like the outcome.
"Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue."
ADHD symptom
Or normal human thing that happens to be applicable to a large current spreading self diagnosis community.
Don't diagnose others.
OP isn't wrong: It is an ADHD symptom.
As it happens most ADHD symptoms are normal human things ...just with the logic/priority controller broken. Offering an observation isn't diagnosing - it's providing a conversation point. Maybe bring it down a notch there man.
There are things to get preachy about: this ain't one of em.
It's not the crime people claim it to be IF you aren't trying to deliberately down others out.
Have you tried Adderall or strattera?
The first option offered should not be lifelong drugs to take.
That's why I waited until four other people replied. Thanks for looking out.
Op seems to be on a bit of a crusade - don't let it get to ya. While I'll agree that recommending drugs specifically isn't particularly helpful: I imagine you made the recommendation because you believe that the poster may have ADHD.... which could be a thing they may want to look into. A lot of people go undiagnosed and are positively miserable as a result. It wouldn't hurt to edit your original post with: ~~strikeout~~ and clarify your reasoning. I think your heart was in the right place ✌️
women aren't special ; i talk over everybody
The woman in my dept talks over me and the other dude all the time, she's very interrupt-y. She's great though we still love her, funny af and knowledgeable. It certainly isn't gender specific.
SORRY WHAT? I COULDN'T HEAR YOUR COMMENT.
In all fairness, there was 12 minutes left in the meeting and Bob has been waiting for the seniority members to shut up for 24 minutes to get a single word in edgewise.
If I get interrupted talking 3 times in a meeting I get up and walk out. This isnt beers with the boys or brunch with the gals, if my opinion cant be respected in full I have work to do.
Sometimes there are benefits to being an androgynous transfemme with an unfortunate case of "Dr. Girlfriend Voice"
and only woman because the same dude does not talk over everyone.
/s ?
(just assuming as I had a similar sarcastic response to this comic)
this post was submitted on 06 Jan 2025
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