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[-] norimee@lemmy.world 126 points 2 months ago

North Korean refugees do exist and even if its more likely to meet a South Korean, wouldn't it be discrimatory and erasing to just assume all Koreans you meet are from the south?

Especially since South Koreans normally don't make the distinction of north and south but talk about one Korea. In my expierience, foreign born Korean don't do this, but Korean born Koreans do.

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[-] sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 69 points 2 months ago

My SO is Korean and we get this all the time. I don't even think it's always a joke, some people just honestly don't understand how restrictive N. Korea is...

[-] sharkfucker420@lemmy.ml 67 points 2 months ago

There are around 100,000 north koreans working abroad. It's not so unreasonable of a question as you'd think

[-] sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 50 points 2 months ago

Looks like it's mostly Russia and China, with unconfirmed estimates for other countries. This is in violation of UN sanctions, so it's highly unlikely that you'd meet a N. Korean in countries that respect UN sanctions.

South Korea, on the other hand, numbers in the millions. So if you live outside of Russia and China, there are millions of S. Koreans vs probably a few thousand N. Koreans. It's not even close.

[-] perviouslyiner@lemmy.world 15 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

And if you do meet a North Korean couple in small-town America, they probably won't mention it! (Un's uncle and aunt fled there from Switzerland)

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[-] ColeSloth@discuss.tchncs.de 10 points 2 months ago

Plus about 50,000 have managed to defect over the past 30 years.

[-] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.autism.place 1 points 2 months ago

150k is about 0.000183% of the world population

[-] sparkle@lemm.ee 7 points 2 months ago

Ok, that's more than twice the population of Wyoming's capital. If I don't ignore that Wyomingites exists then there's no reason to ignore that North Koreans exist outside of North Korea

[-] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.autism.place 1 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

I never assume that someone is from Wyoming's capital either.

[-] unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de 18 points 2 months ago

I still dont really get the issue. Yes its much less likely that any korean would be from the north, but there absolutely are defectors from the north that live in the west. This is just like people calling themselves "american"... Like bro just properly state the name of your home country, then people wont have to ask you.

[-] sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 7 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Yes, defectors exist, but they're so vanishingly few that it makes no sense to ask. Average defectors are something like 1-2k/year, and by comparison, about 16-17k S. Koreans immigrate to the US every year. So the chance that the person you're talking to is from N. Korea is incredibly small, not only do very few people actually escape N. Korea, they likely largely stay in S. Korea, where they speak the language.

"Korea" is the proper name for both countries, the "North" and "South" descriptor comes from other countries to disambiguate them. The official name for S. Korea is "Republic of Korea," and the official name for N. Korea is "Democratic People's Republic of Korea." So if you're wanting people to fully state the country they're from, you'd probably be more confused because both countries' official names include "Republic of Korea." But you'll likely never talk to someone from N. Korea, so the whole question is moot. If they say they're from "Korea," 99.9% of the time they'll be from South Korea, and if you live outside of S. Korea, it's probably like 99.999%.

[-] HubertManne@moist.catsweat.com 9 points 2 months ago

Ive known a dozen koreans (if you include briefly meeting family then more) and one was indeed born in the north.

[-] sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 months ago

Were they super old? As in, they were born there before the war?

Because actually meeting someone from N. Korea is incredibly rare, unless you're in China or something (S. Koreans pretty much never immigrate there).

[-] HubertManne@moist.catsweat.com 7 points 2 months ago

nope. PhD student. I did not sit down and ask the story but it was known because it was such a thing. Don't know if he was a baby on a raft or had a harrowing escape story or what.

[-] sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago

Interesting. That's a pretty rare opportunity, assuming you're not in Russia or China (and even then, it's still fairly uncommon).

[-] HubertManne@moist.catsweat.com 2 points 2 months ago

You know im sorta wishing now I would have tried to get the story. I mean we had like half a dozen other koreans and no one seemed to treat him differently but he was not especially outgoing and that is even for a korean student who were not the most outgoing to begin with and lets face it. PhD students are not necessarily the most outgoing of the popluation at large. At the time it was just woa, but you know otherwise he seemed no different than any others. He did smoke which I did not think about it at the time as many PhD students smoked but it was not prevelent in the korean students. At least the ones I knew which is a not a super large set.

[-] sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 months ago

Eh, Koreans have a pretty high rate of smoking (this site claims >40% of adult men), so you're probably just getting sampling bias if most you know don't smoke. My SO's friends are all anti-smoking for religious reasons, but when we visited Korea, a lot of people smoked. A lot of people in Asia smoke, it's nuts.

But yeah, Koreans tend to stick with other Koreans. My in-laws are quite racist against non-Koreans (I get a pass), and while the younger generations are better about it, they still tend to stick with other Koreans. I had a lot of international friends growing up (Vietnamese, Japanese, Taiwanese, etc), but none of them were Korean, despite having a pretty big Korean population where I grew up. I had a good working relationship with one in college when I was dating my SO (he was super good at StarCraft, that's not just a meme), and I helped him edit his essays.

[-] HubertManne@moist.catsweat.com 1 points 2 months ago

I will say most koreans I have known are religious (and christian curiously) and come to think of it I don't recall this guy ever mentioning religion.

[-] sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 months ago

Yeah, I'm pretty sure N. Korea bans religion, kind of like the USSR, because the leader is supposed to replace God.

South Korea is something like 50% non-religious, and the rest is split between Buddhist and Christian (a bit more Christian than Buddhist). But at least from my experience, Koreans tend to see religion as more of a social club than actual belief, and in the US, they tend to be business networking places instead of places to actually worship. So even a Christian Korean probably wouldn't be super upfront about it.

[-] unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de 9 points 2 months ago

A certain demographic being rare/small does not strip them of their right to existence in peoples minds, i get where you are coming from, but there is also zero hurt being done by asking this. There might not be super much of a point in asking, but looking at someone like they are a moron for asking it, is completely unjustified.

[-] pathief@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago

I'm guessing people from South Korea get a little mad being asked this all the time.

[-] pelespirit@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 months ago

Nah, he was around eight too. Both were in their own bubble of 8 year oldness.

[-] sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 0 points 2 months ago

It's not just that they're rare, but that it's literally illegal due to UN sanctions for N. Koreans to emigrate (resolution 2397 in 2017), not to mention severe restrictions by the N. Korean regime itself. Just asking if someone is from N. Korea in any country that follows UN resolutions could get that person deported if someone overhears.

[-] unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de 5 points 2 months ago

As long as you qualify for refugee status this does not apply. I dont know what is required to qualify for that, but i assume its not impossible, considering the kind of place north korea is.

[-] sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 months ago

Certainly. But that just means it's that much less likely that you'll actually meet someone who qualifies (they'll have to flee N. Korea first, the official channels won't work).

[-] Tja@programming.dev 2 points 2 months ago

I think "being from North Korea" qualifies immediately for refugee status.

[-] MotoAsh@lemmy.world 4 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

TIL "increadibly small" is greater than 1/20...

[-] sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 months ago

? The 1-2k figure is total people defecting from N. Korea every year. This isn't immigration, it's people running away from N. Korea. The 16-17k figure is just S. Koreans going to the US (doesn't include other countries).

The actual numbers of people in a given country have a much bigger gap. For S. Korea, it's like 2.5M in the US alone (about 7-8M worldwide), whereas for N. Korea, it's like 100-150k worldwide (mostly in China and Russia). If we take that on face value, it's like 70x more S. Koreans vs N. Koreans worldwide outside their native countries, and if you exclude Russia and China, it's probably well over 1000x.

[-] makyo@lemmy.world 7 points 2 months ago

Nobody will be confused if you tell them you’re American

[-] DarkDarkHouse@lemmy.sdf.org 4 points 2 months ago

i remember when i was 8 one of my friends told me he was american and i asked whether he was from north or south and i was so proud bc i knew there were two of them and he looked at me like i was a fucking moron

[-] lemmyknow@lemmy.today 0 points 2 months ago

They might not be confused, but if you're not from the US, they'll be wrong (spoiler: America is a continent, usually broken down into North, Central, and South America (and Latin America, for hispanic countries and Brazil. Other subcategorisations of "America" the continent might exist))

[-] RoquetteQueen@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 months ago

I'm Canadian. We know America is the entire continent. We still don't want to be called Americans. The US can keep that.

[-] makyo@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago

I’m American and also know the continents are called that and also don’t always want to be called American. But that’s the standard and what everyone uses to refer to us, until I meet some pedant who thinks they’re clever and trying to prove some kind of point as if I didn’t know or as if I chose that word myself.

[-] lemmyknow@lemmy.today 1 points 2 months ago

Tbh I just mostly be annoyed at how much US stuff makes it my way, even though I've never even set foot there. English became a lingua franca of sorts, and through the use of it online, I cannot avoid stumblin' upon their news and, especially, politics. And sometimes I come to wonder if the (information-based) content I consume might be more relevant to US audiences, therefore rendering the information irrelevant to me.

I do have to give it to them, though, they do have good content online (or rather, content in English tends to be quite good, and in my opinion, unmatched in many languages of which I know and understand, for the number of YouTube channels I follow in any other language pales in comparison to the stuff in English (where are the non-English video essays, funny but sometimes also wise commentary videos, and interesting and sometimes quite fun videos on topics that might teach you a thing or two? (shout out to Ter and Jaime Altozano for the (less frequent) fun content that keeps my YouTube* feed the tiniest bit less English (and never makes me question if I actually like their content, as it's usually great stuff))))

Also, United States of America? Cause… their country is made of states, and these are united? What are countries, if not states, united, after all? And… it's in America, the continent, as well! Did they not come up with a better name? Almost reminds me of Monty Python's witch scene, from The Holy Grail. "And what are countries made of?" " Land" "Churches" "States". Who art thee, so wise in the ways of science?

[-] AnUnusualRelic@lemmy.world 1 points 2 months ago

The only purpose of central America is to pretend that Mexico isn't in northern America.

[-] Couldbealeotard@lemmy.world 1 points 2 months ago

It's a valid distinction from a cultural point of view. The Americas covers such a vast portion of the globe, you need a succinct way to narrow down which part of it you are talking about. Kind of the same when you talk about the UK, western Europe, eastern Europe, middle east; it's all one big area with no clear geographical division.

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[-] AlecSadler@sh.itjust.works 35 points 2 months ago

As a Korean (South) that is a US citizen, I get this...all the time.

So...you're not alone?

[-] Buddahriffic@lemmy.world 11 points 2 months ago

... Northern US or Southern?

[-] AlecSadler@sh.itjust.works 5 points 2 months ago

Left Coast!

[-] Lexam@lemmy.ca 19 points 2 months ago

For an eight year old that doesn't seem that unreasonable. Now as an adult...

[-] Zipitydew@sh.itjust.works 14 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Adults should know people only flock to best Korea.

[-] RampantParanoia2365@lemmy.world 5 points 2 months ago

I believe I asked a co-worker once, at around 30 years old. I realized right away, but like this 8 year old, I was just proud I knew when I asked.

[-] anzo@programming.dev 2 points 1 month ago

Not to mention the third Korea, which sounds so Chic (⁀ᗢ⁀)

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