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[-] DesertComrade@hexbear.net 63 points 4 months ago

A lot of these right wing freaks wouldn't be so sexist if they they talked to a woman irl once and while. Also politely asking someone out and then telling them exactly what you want probably beats the clusterfuck that is modern dating.

[-] TemutheeChallahmet@hexbear.net 36 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

The first step is teaching them to want something realistic, informed by what they feel deep down, and not dehumanizing so they can actually "wear it on their sleeve" when approaching a woman rather than feeling like it's a secret shame they have to insidiously spring on the woman at the moment her guard is down.

[-] DesertComrade@hexbear.net 4 points 4 months ago

You are right But I believe talking to real women will help them have realistic expectations. Or real people in general The Internet is a very toxic place.

[-] TemutheeChallahmet@hexbear.net 4 points 4 months ago

Yeah I think people retreat to the internet to halt their trial and error process of learning how to court and be told it's okay to keep halting

[-] ultraviolet@hexbear.net 7 points 4 months ago

There's nothing wrong with just making friendly conversation, but you should not ask out random service workers because they have to be polite to the customer and it puts them in a weird spot if some stranger just asks them on a date.

[-] DesertComrade@hexbear.net 3 points 4 months ago

Sure asking out anyone while they are on the clock requires a degree of social nuance they don't have It's gonna be like this viral clip of kai cenat and Kevin hart But as long as they interact with people in real life, they will start learning from their mistakes.

[-] EmoThugInMyPhase@hexbear.net 58 points 4 months ago

I had planned on doing this when I got out of the military, but Providence had it that I'd never have to try it out -- I'd be engaged to Keturah just before my discharge. But I say to any young man having trouble finding a woman it's absolutely worth a try.

“Well, no. I haven’t tried this myself. I am happily married. But you go and try this thing I made up in my head because it sounds romantic”

[-] Frank@hexbear.net 56 points 4 months ago

Eh. I mean, not the worst marriage practice by far.

[-] EnsignRedshirt@hexbear.net 49 points 4 months ago

Yeah, the part about specifically going to poor towns is suspect, but, like, is there anything more true to the idea of touching grass than to leave your house and talk to people in real life with the intention of meeting a serious romantic partner? Granted, I don’t endorse hitting on service workers while they’re on the job, but politely asking the IHOP waitress if she wants to grab a coffee later isn’t exactly sex tourism.

Normal people meet like this all the time and have normal relationships. This is 80% of the way to being extremely healthy and constructive advice, even if the other 20% came through the boomer filter.

[-] TemutheeChallahmet@hexbear.net 34 points 4 months ago

Thing is, I don't think anybody who reads this, which is from one of those right wing accounts harvesting grievances about modern women, is actually going to do this. This is just a nice little movie the reader can play in their head or a salve-daydream they escape into in moments of loneliness before returning to porn addiction, a hamster wheel job, or NEETdom.

[-] EnsignRedshirt@hexbear.net 21 points 4 months ago

That’s kind of the sad thing. This is obviously just engagement bait for reactionary boomers, but a lot of people would legitimately benefit from logging off and having a conversation with a stranger in real life instead of spending 12 hours a day alternating between arguing on the internet and watching porn. This is almost broken clock territory.

[-] TemutheeChallahmet@hexbear.net 13 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

The guy he's writing this for would do well to just attend a few social events at the local library first, there's no way he'd have the outdoors, offline comfort and social skills yet for a real road trip across towns he's never been to with completely different cultures.

[-] EmoThugInMyPhase@hexbear.net 25 points 4 months ago

I don’t know if most normal people tell their waitress that they’re looking to marry her lol

[-] EnsignRedshirt@hexbear.net 12 points 4 months ago

It probably doesn’t work too often, but I bet it happens plenty.

[-] SkingradGuard@hexbear.net 18 points 4 months ago

Honestly I'd hate if someone asked me out while working, idk if this is good advice at all.

[-] robot_dog_with_gun@hexbear.net 13 points 4 months ago

on the one hand don't hit on people at work, on the other hand the advice this guy is competing with for an audience is telling these dudes to cw:sa

[-] EnsignRedshirt@hexbear.net 11 points 4 months ago

Like I said, I don’t endorse that part, but “get off the computer and talk to people” is advice that a lot of people would benefit from taking.

[-] FunkyStuff@hexbear.net 35 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

It's pretty exploitative but certainly better than "passport bros." I wouldn't judge a lonely guy for choosing to do this over the apps though, as a last resort.

E: maybe exploitative isn't the right word. But I would rather not use this method where the person you find is less likely to love you for who you are, instead they're likely to prefer you to the other options that were immediately available. It's only exploitative if you're a wealthy guy who goes to a poor area to do this and take advantage of desperate women.

[-] Frank@hexbear.net 40 points 4 months ago

I figure we're at a point where, in the US, marriage for purely economic reasons is on at least some people's radars, especially if it's a way to get out of a dying no horse town.

[-] FourteenEyes@hexbear.net 35 points 4 months ago

We really do be retvrning to tradition

[-] Frank@hexbear.net 22 points 4 months ago

Sarah, plain and tall.

[-] TemutheeChallahmet@hexbear.net 19 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Yeah that or it becoming like some Asian countries where one parent in a married couple goes to the city for huge portions of the year to work as a nanny, etc. and send money back. Either could at least make it harder for people in those towns to believe the cities are always on fire and running amok with armed robbers.

[-] WELCOMETHRILLHO@hexbear.net 53 points 4 months ago

PLOT TWIST: these guys all end up marrying brassy, chainsmoking older waitresses named Barb or Midge who say stuff like, “more java, hun?”

[-] Saeculum@hexbear.net 9 points 4 months ago

Sounds like a win?

[-] Tankiedesantski@hexbear.net 50 points 4 months ago

Finally, a passport bro solution for people on the no fly list for their 4chan posts.

[-] ButtBidet@hexbear.net 49 points 4 months ago

When I marry my rural Amerikan bride, she must convert to Marxist-Leninist-Bidenism. Once a year we'll go back to her shithole state, like Connecticut or something, for whatever cracker holiday they celebrate there. Maybe Arbor Day, that sounds the least terrible.

[-] ComradePlatypus@hexbear.net 48 points 4 months ago

Who doesn’t love a drifter targeting women?

[-] HumanBehaviorByBjork@hexbear.net 29 points 4 months ago

it's fine, he's a veteran! the most stable kind of man to marry

[-] huf@hexbear.net 2 points 4 months ago

rambo killed one man (IIRC) when he was a drifter veteran on a rampage. he killed dozens and dozens when he was an agent of the US state or when he was a white dude living in asia.

so, rather a drifter veteran than any other kind of veteran :)

[-] ksynwa@lemmygrad.ml 31 points 4 months ago

What's with waitesses/cashiers being the target here? What chud worldbuilding lore am I missing here?

[-] SoyViking@hexbear.net 46 points 4 months ago

They are women who are obliged to be nice to them.

[-] Hestia@hexbear.net 28 points 4 months ago

Bc a woman's place is in the kitchen, or serving a man.

[-] ksynwa@lemmygrad.ml 40 points 4 months ago

I thought they were just cornering the poor women who are professionally obligated to talk to them.

[-] space_comrade@hexbear.net 36 points 4 months ago

Tbh considering we're talking about chud "dating advice" this is the tamest, most normal shit I've seen yet. Asking a waitress out isn't that big of a deal provided you actually take no for an answer which I admit might be a tall order for some of these dudes.

[-] the_itsb@hexbear.net 19 points 4 months ago

This was my read on it, too

[-] DragonBallZinn@hexbear.net 14 points 4 months ago

I wish these men would take a look in the mirror and realize that all the “traditional values” they tout are just them acting like what they don’t like about women, they feel like the other party has to bring everything to the table and not them because they’re the “good” gender, and that is good enough.

To make matters worse, any woman can tell these Mfs aren’t looking for a spouse, they’re looking for an employee.

[-] HumanBehaviorByBjork@hexbear.net 15 points 4 months ago

they're underpaid and perceived as easily exploitable.

[-] RNAi@hexbear.net 28 points 4 months ago

Time to invest in waitress harassment futures stonks-up

[-] TheDoctor@hexbear.net 24 points 4 months ago

:de-working-class-woman: What?

[-] ShimmeringKoi@hexbear.net 20 points 4 months ago

Look how weirded out that second girl is at having her picture taken by some creep

[-] Flyberius@hexbear.net 15 points 4 months ago

Probably just after he asked to go on a date and marry him too

[-] HumanBehaviorByBjork@hexbear.net 16 points 4 months ago

you can be called whatever you want idc but i have never heard the name Keturah in my life thats wild

[-] jaywalker@hexbear.net 14 points 4 months ago

Read your Bible, sinner

[-] AndJusticeForAll@hexbear.net 15 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Tried this in Canada and still got turned down 100% of the time.

[-] bigboopballs@hexbear.net 12 points 4 months ago

fuck Canada

[-] Othello@hexbear.net 5 points 4 months ago

all service workers should have guns and be able to shoot anyone who ask them out on the spot.

[-] Othello@hexbear.net 4 points 4 months ago

all of those women were scared walking to their cars that evening. most people in customer service has been or knows someone who has been stalked/harassed by a customer.

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