Think about a roundabout though in comparison, no lights or specific order, and there is a learning curve, but overall they reduce traffic better then stoplights under many conditions.

I guess my point is sort of extrapolating that a structure/presentation also heavily influences how users perceive or use a product/idea

Decentralization doesn't necessarily mean disorganization. You can create a Lemmy instance with no moderation and rely purely on the community itself to self moderate, much like someone can create an instance with rules, and if someone disagrees with the rules they can create their own. Both are part of a decentralized system, so no one is actually coerced into participating in any system by regulation, just social pressure.

The same is true when attempting to merge in the US. See Japan traffic as a counter argument.

I find it a bit ironic that cars and traffic lights are being used as a metaphor for why anarchy won't work. Let's put aside that the example is of poor collective planning to build urban environments. Go to Vietnam and see how people drive without traffic lights, it's complete madness. But it works, and in some ways it works better than what we have because the accidents are fewer and less severe while also serving more diverse modes of traffic.

Anarchism isn't zero organization. It's organization for legitimate and accountable purposes.