I can understand this. I get weird looks and teased for declining drinks or admitting that alcohol taste bad to me - I can't tolerate it, it's bad for a medical condition of mine and I'm not going to pretend to be someone I'm not just to fit in (the compromise is me getting a soft drink or water while the others drink what they want).

On the other had, I've had drunk family friends that were a pain to deal with, been cursed at by a drunken villager one time and had our property littered with beer bottles and other trash when they've been parties in our area.

The problem, I think, that you're facing is that you're being, and I quote, "simply obnoxious and at worst straight up abusive". It's hard to make friends with people when that's their opinion of you.

And what's worst is that your opinion is based on the worst drinkers. The problem drinkers. People like me (averaging, say, a drink every two days, hasn't been actually drunk since sometime in the '90s, etc.) are going to be shying away from you if you start talking like this, largely because you're coming across as a judgmental prick and I don't like hanging out with judgmental pricks. (Nor do I like hanging out with drunks.)

Are you a judgmental prick for real? I have no idea and no way to know. I can't read what's in your mind. But I can hear what you say (and read your body language when you say it) and even though I'm not a drunk, not obnoxious, and not abusive, I'm still likely to shy away from interacting with you because you come across as obnoxious and even abusive, at least with this.

Flies, honey, vinegar, yadda yadda yadda.

Next up: obnoxious vegans.