Grogon

As much as I like AI but the last years are kind of a lot, sometimes just too much for me.

I can't even watch youtube without getting a video translated into my language which is quite annoying.

The first search on google has an AI telling me the stuff I need to know, don't even have to look at real human threads at this point.

Not even going to deep on the AI generated videos, news etc. because that is insane already and we aren't even peaking.

I am 40 years old. Imagine studying a few years on a 200.000 €/$ or whatever currency degree just to find out that the job won't even exist by 2028.

Imagine finding out that you won't be able to pay off your debt cause most fastfood restaurants will use AI/ Bots that can serve, prepare, clean etc. 24/7 while a useless human needs breaks, wants money and needs days off and can only work 8 hour shifts.

I know this sounds crazy but I really think by 2030 we will have 80% jobs replaced by AI and the new jobs that might evolve out of jobs that have vanished will only be doable for AGI/ Super Intelligence.

Think about it.... while in the 1800s machines have replaced or made jobs easier, they still required humans manpower to produce them, to maintaine them and to even use them.

Now we are basically replacing what made humans - human - our brains. As we know the human brain has never ever been replaced by something and that is the organ that put us where we are in the food chain. And we are creating something that is BETTER, FASTER, MORE EFFICIENT than our a brain.

It could all be cool and nice and fun and games if we wouldn't be replacing humans in a very short time frame til 2030. It could all be cool,... if not every country would be competing in this race to super intelligence.

Looking at this neutral and seeing what is happing, imo I might be doomed in 5 years.

I really think I will be fck.d up in 5 years. A job is annoying, but it's also a humans purpose. A way to express itself and be useful to society. If this is being taken away we will find 95% of humanity in a huge depression and suicide rates are going to rise by 2030.

Edit: We can't even imagine and visualise what super intelligence will do and can do. Before we even understand what this AI just created and offered us the next best thing is already produced.

We are basically getting smarter with every new upgrade AI will give us, but get dumber in the process cause we can't even PROCESS the new stuff.

Bland example: currently phones are getting upgrades 1-2 years and we can read whats new and see the new things. Imagine those phones being produced every week with new and better and more useful upgrades. We'd buy the phone, understand the phone and after a week the next phone with 5 new features is on the markert and we are outdated.

We can't process the new upgrades etc. in such a short time frame. We aren't capable of that. This leads us to getting dumber with every new upgrade.

Imagine AI creating a Boeing and after a year we understand how to use it. But during that year it already released a Boeing that can fly at the speed of flight. It can't be used cause humans cant use it and would die at those speeds. But AI could.

AI will be producing so much trash knowledge lol.

Like, not the big dramatic stuff — I mean the tiny things you barely think about.

I was just reflecting on how many times something small ended up leading to something huge. For example:

When I decided to grab coffee at a different café and randomly mer someone who later became a close friend.

Saying “yes” to a last-minute invite and discovering a hobby that became a huge part of your life. In my example it was bouldering.

Now if I spin this further, if I hadn't gotten into rock climbing I probably wouldn't have injured my shoulder a year ago.

Now look at the other examples on this planet. A person who called in sick on 9/11 or missed that flight.

It's insane. If I wouldn't be writing this post maybe I would have gotten hit by a car?

So, my grandma passed away recently, and her estate is being divided between my mom and her brother (my uncle). My mom has declined her share, so now my brother and I will each receive 25% of the value of the house, and my uncle will get 50%.

Here’s where things start to get complicated. My uncle had originally agreed to give me $30,000 in cash after the house was sold. This was because my brother wanted a separate property (not the house) that’s worth around $30,000. So, in the original plan, I would receive $30,000 in cash when the house sold, and my brother would get that other property instead of taking part of the house’s value.

But now my brother has changed his mind. He wants to buy the house outright. He says I’ll still only get $30,000, even though the house is worth about $180,000. He claims this is fair because I “agreed” to that amount with our uncle, and I shouldn’t be asking for more. Here’s where things get a bit tricky: if he gives me $30,000 and then gives my uncle $100,000 (to make up the 50% of the house’s value), he’ll essentially be able to resell the house for the full $180,000 and pocket the rest of the money as profit. So he gets the house, gives me the $30k I asked for, and ends up with a good deal.

I’ve tried to explain to him that my original plan was to make sure our uncle received a fair amount—meaning, I didn’t want to take more than what our uncle was getting. I wanted to make sure that the $30,000 I was asking for didn’t come out of the overall value of the house, but rather from the sale, so no one was being shortchanged. I didn’t want to end up selling the house with our uncle for more money and having a situation where I walk away with more than him. But my brother doesn’t seem to get that, and now he’s saying, “Why can’t I just do the same for him?” and calling me greedy for wanting more money.

To be honest, I’m really not sure if I’m being unreasonable here. I feel like the way things are being handled isn’t really fair, but my brother keeps pushing back and saying I was fine with the original agreement. Is it unreasonable for me to want a larger share now that my brother wants to buy the house, or am I just overthinking it?

I basically only wanted the amount my brother was getting. He was getting a different property and I checked what that is worth (30k) and said okay, fine, if he only wants that property I don't want full "25%" of the house when its sold. My max limit was 30k once sold and if he sells for 300.000 I still only get 30.000 because my brother is only getting a property that is worth 30.000.

Well now I guess I fcked up. But is there a way to get out of this without coming off as greedy? I would have been happy with 30.000 if my oncle would have gotten "more" but now that my oncle will only get 100.000 and me only 30.000 I feel kind of ripped off. Well I am never being ripped off anyways since I am getting free 30.000. But still.. this is weird.

I hope you guys understand. My grandma has a Property A and a Property B + House. Property A = my brother (worth 30.000). Property B (+ House) = my oncle and me, but me limited to 30.000 once sold (not 25%) so I won't get 50.000 or more since my brother is "only" getting a property worth 30.000. I thought it would be unfair if I'd get way more by selling the house and also felt sorry for my uncle cause he messed up the paperwork. Normally my brother and I would get NOTHING.

My brothers wife also said that I am greedy for now wanting 25% of the house instead of 30.000. She even said that I should consider a family price and give it for free since it is "staying in the family". I said no I have bills to pay and paying off my own house. But I also said that the 30.000 were a completly different deal. I "made up" the 30.000 € for my uncle so he knows that I won't want more than my brother and we all get the same even though its not 25% of what I could LEGALY recieve. I could also tell my oncle screw it I want 25% of the house but I never wanted that much in the first place. But now this feels so bad cause my brother wants to buy it cheap (he owns 25%, has to pay me only 30.000 and my oncle the 50% of the house (90.000). And my 25% would be atleast 45.000.

How did I manage to go from 0 times gym in my life (now 32 years old) to jnot being able to stick to Upper Lower Routines cause I want to go to gym and hating rest days?

I know they are important, but I just can't stick with 4 day plans.

Now I am currently doing a PPL (5day) routine I made up in the hope it will workout better.

I know PPL Rest PPL,... would be better but I am now trying PPL(A Strength Focused )PPL(B Calisthenics Focused) in a 5 day rotating scedule. So PPLPP Weekend Rest LPPLP Weekend Rest PLPPL Weekend Rest PPLPP, and so on. This means every third week I will hit either Legs, Pull or Push only once a week. But this also means every third week one of the days gets a bit more rest.

Since I am rotating A (Strength Machine/ Freeweight focused) with B (Calisthenics, Bodyweight) I hope I can manage fatigue as natural.

Any ideas how I can get this done better?

Should I maybe do 4 weeks PPL A and then after 4 weeks do PPL B?

With rotating I am afraid of not being able to focus properly on one version. But I like the idea of swapping through to reduce strain on joints and not have the same pattern for 4 weeks.

With PPL A PPL B PPL A PPL B and so on I can only track once a week my progress, while sticking to A or B for 4-6 weeks I could track every few days.

I already tried hybrid approaches like Upper Lower Rest PPL, or PPL Rest UL but those rest days in the mid of the week are annoying. I just want saturday and sunday off, but sometimes I end up going anyways and doing cardio.

At this point I'd probably have more gains or success doing UL Rest UL but just the thought of 3 rest days is exhausting.

My plan if anyone is interested:

• PULL A – Strength + Machine-Based Pull

1. Wide Grip Pull-Ups – 3×6–10 1.2) Superset: Machine-Assisted Pull-Ups to hit 10 total per set
2. Unilateral Chest-Supported Row Machine – 3×6–10
3. Cable Face Pulls – 3×10–14
4. Cable Hammer Curls (Rope) – 3×10–14

• PUSH A – Strength-Based Push 1)Flat Barbell Bench Press – 3×6–10

2. Incline DB Bench Press – 3×8–12
3. Seated DB Shoulder Press – 3×8–12
4. Cable Lateral Raises – 3×10–14
5. EZ Bar Skull Crushers – 3×10–14

• LEGS A – Foundational Strength

1. Back Squat – 3×8–12
2. Seated Leg Curl Machine – 3×10–14 3)Leg Extension Machine – 3×10–14 4)Smith Machine Calf Raises – 3×10–14
3. Decline Crunches (Bodyweight) – 3 sets to failure

• PULL B – Calisthenics-Focused Pull

• 1.1)Neutral Grip Pull-Ups (Strict) – 3×AMRAP (aim for 6–10)

• 1.2)Superset: V-Grip Lat Pulldown (Heavy) to complete 10 reps

2. Australian Rows (Feet Elevated if Possible) – 3×10–12
3. Cableace Pulls – 3×8–12
4. Incline DB Curls – 3×10–14

• PUSH B – Calisthenics-Focused Push

1. Dips (Weighted if Strong Enough) – 3×6–10
2. Push-Up Variation – 3×10–12
3. Pike Push-Ups – 3×6–10
4. Cable Lateral Raises – 3×8–12
5. Bodyweight Triceps Extensions – 3×10–12

• LEGS B – Calisthenics + Control

1. Romanian Deadlifts (BB) – 3×8–10
2. Assisted Pistol Squats – 3×8–10/leg
3. Isometric Lunge Hold – 2×45–60 sec
4. Standing Calf Raises ( Weighted) – 3×12–15
5. Hanging Leg Raises – 3 sets (timed)

Hey! Been reading a lot currently on how to create a routine and found this

https://www.aworkoutroutine.com/the-beginner-weight-training-workout-routine/

And read quite a lot on his side.

So the idea (if natural beginner) is basically to do Upper Lower (3-4x) or Upper Lower with PPL (5x) as a beginner.

My idea right now is doing PPL 5x a week but cycle through. So I start Pull, Push, Legs, Pull Push (weekend rest) and start my next week with Legs, Pull Push, Legs, Pull (weekend rest) and then go on with Push, Pull, Legs, Push Pull (weekend rest) and so on.

This should provide enough recovery for me as a beginner (7 months gym) or am I wrong?

I also should reduce volume from 6-7 exercises for better recovery.

So my new workout is basically:

Pull A: (Lat Pulldown + Wide Grip Focus)

1. V Bar Lat Pulldowns 3x6-8
2. Wide Grip T Bar Rows 3x8-10
3. Cable Face Pulls 3x10-15
4. Seated Dumbbell Curls 3x10-15

Push A: (Chest Focus)

1. Flat DB Benchpresses (3x6-8)
2. Bodyweight Dips (3 Sets to failure)
3. Cable Lateral Raises (3x10-15)
4. EZ Bar Skull Crushers (3x10-15)

Legs A: (Squat Focus)

1. Squats 3x6-8
2. Seated Leg Curls 3x10-15
3. Smithmachine Calf Raises 3x10-15 (each set different stance)
4. Decline Crunches 3 Sets to failure

Pull B: (Pull Up Neutral Grip Focus)

1. Pull Ups (2 Sets Wide Grip)
2. Pull Ups (2 Sets Neutral Grip)
3. T Bar Row (Neutral Grip) 3x8-10
4. Cable Hammer Curls (Rope) 3x10-15

Push B: (Shoulder Focus)

1. Seated DB Overhead Presses 3x6-8
2. Cable Lateral Raises 3x15-20
3. Machine Chest Press 3x8-10
4. Incline Bench DB Flys 3x10-15
5. Triceps Overhead Extensions (Cable) 3x10-15

Legs B: (RDL Focus)

1. RDLs 3x6-8
2. Seated Leg Ext. 3x 8-10
3. Bulgarian Split Squats 2x 8-10
4. Smithmachine Calf Raises 3x10-15
5. Hanging Leg Raises 3x to Failure

Any thoughts on this? Is volume "decent" or too low?

I know I should stick to a programm but I haven't found one I enjoyed and just changed a few exercises to what I like and matched the Set/ Rep range and reduced exercises to beginner level (8 months gym experience).

Is this okay?

Question would be: Is this allowing for enough recovery even if I go 5x a week? Should I just combine Pull/Push to Upper Day and do 8 Exercises on each upper day instead for an extra rest day? Upper Lower Rest Upper Lower Rest Rest?

What I like about 4-5 exercises is that I can easily do 20-30 minute low intensity cardio after each workout day?

I noticed this with almost every outdoor activity I do.

While I love diving and snorkeling, but after the first dive/ snorkel back to boat I can't wait to get back in but I don't want to get wet, put on masks, fins etc.

We were canoeing and while I could go 15-20 miles in a single session I hate getting out of the canoe and getting it out of the water, getting dry, eating and then just the though of getting back into a canoe is exhausting.

I noticed this with climbing as well. Thats why I just prefer to boulder if i ever go climb.

If I had two scuba dives in a row without having to go back to boat I'd enjoy it way more. But these breaks in the middle of the day are so exhausting for me.

Is this normal? Everytime I go on trips nobody has this problem.

But once I am set up and back in I'm fine. It's just this phase during breaks where I think I am actually fine and could go home now. One reason why I just prefer to power through 6-8 hours and then eat a huge dinner.

Hey it sounds sad but imo my friends and I had like the best childhood.

Its not like we never left the house - we did - but while playing soccer we were making plans on launch of WoW Burning Crusade, to whose place we can go set up a "Lan" with fast Internet and whose parents wouldnt care if we would play all night.

After school launching Warcraft 3 playing Line Tower Wars and then going out for soccer or the lake was a blast.

Then at home we would order pizza and start a Lan Session and play Starcraft BW, Age of Empires or Speedrun in Diablo 2.

I miss those days. I have waaay more time on me than as a kid (nice job) but my friends dont. So even if I have the time it will never ever be the same like in 2001 to 2009.

I miss those days :( im glad my parents let me game whenever I wanted and let us choose if we want to play inside or outside. Gladly we did both but I sure would have a huge missing part of me if and my friends never made so many memories in WoW, Warcraft, Starcraft, Diablo, Quake etc

Just wondering if others think the same.

The thing is though its Hard to not be blinded during vacation.

Vacation is just different than living at the place.

I have no experience whatsoever but here in germany I feel like I am missing out on life. I wonder how cool it would be just to be a dive instructor or working at animal sancuarys around the world.

I understand its not chill how it is on vacation working a bit and bbq and beers with the plebs. So much going on behind the scenes and the pay sucks. I wouldnt be able to live how I live now.

But maybe life doesnt have to be comfortable to be better and I should try it?

My job and pay here is just too good but not good enough to volunteer more in how I would like to. Money will run out eventuelly and then what?

I dont think I should be living from vacation to vacation at the same time 80% of the humans dont even have this luxery I have..

I usually plan on Sundays, adjusting based on how much time I’ll have. I always aim for at least 4 workouts a week, even when life gets busy.

I heard from a lot of people that it's not good too switch up routine too often, but to me it's actually feeling quite good swapping PPL with UL (if time is short) but going atleast 4x a week (UL - UL) or perhaps UL PPL.

I wanted to share my workout routine that balances flexibility and consistency. I use a mix of Upper/Lower and Push/Pull/Legs (PPL) depending on my time constraints each week.

Typical Week: 6x per week: PPLPPL (Push, Pull, Legs, Push, Pull, Legs) 5x per week: A mix of Upper/Lower and PPL 4x per week: Upper/Lower (always at least 4 workouts)

I made a few Upper, Lower, Push and Pull days to select from and alternate every now and then.

Upper A: Chest focus Upper B: Back focus

Lower A: RDLs Lower B: Squats

Push A: Chest focus Push B: Shoulder focus

Pull A: Back/Lat pulldown Pull B: Back/Pull-ups

Is it really that bad to change routine this often?

About a year ago, I got married. I couldn’t invite everyone from my friend group, so I decided to only invite people I actually spend time with one-on-one outside of group stuff over the past year or two.

There are two people in the group—one of them being the one this is really about—who I honestly wouldn’t even know if they stopped hanging out with our shared friends. We’ve never done anything just the two of us. We only ever see each other at parties every few months.

Thing is, those two are also the ones who organize everything. They’ve kind of created their own mini friend group inside the bigger group—like 6 or 7 people out of 15 who get invited to the real stuff: birthdays, city trips, holidays, etc. And five of those people are actually close friends of mine.

When I invited 9 of the 15 to my wedding, I told people I just couldn’t include everyone. Most people were cool with it, even her best friend didn’t mind. But now, she’s throwing a party for her 30th birthday and invited everyone—except me.

She’s never invited me to her birthday before, which is part of why I didn’t invite her to the wedding in the first place. I figured if we’re not close enough for a birthday dinner, a wedding isn’t happening either.

But this time it’s different. She invited literally everyone else in the group. My best friend wasn’t invited either, but that makes sense—he doesn’t really know her. With me, though, I’m pretty sure it’s payback for not inviting her to my wedding.

And yeah... I don’t know. I usually don’t care about her events because I’m not close with her. But this time feels different. Not because I wanted to go to her party—but because everyone else is going. I know I’ll be left out when they’re all talking about it later. I’ll miss out on those shared moments, even if it’s with people I do care about.

I get it. I didn’t invite her, she’s not inviting me. Fair enough. But I can’t help feeling weird about it. Like, yeah, maybe I started this when I didn’t include her—but at the same time, she’s the one who’s always made the group feel split in two. She’s been excluding people for years.

Anyway, here we are. Not invited. And for once, it actually kind of stings. Wish it didn’t. But this one hits different.

I probably won't be able to fix this cause even on group gatherings we rarely have a 1:1 conversation. Like never had... she is the person that is always there and in the middle of all but if we talk it's in a group setting. I can't remember if I ever talked alone with her.

I personally would have invited her to something like a birthday. But I don't celebrate my birthdays. I never did and I don't care about my birthday. Three years ago I planned a trip to a theme park and I invited everyone (and her) to join and organised everything. A few weeks later she organised something else but only with the 5 other friends. So that was the last time I organised something.

It's weird because this person also makes me feel very insecure. It's not that I don't like her but when she is around I am totally different. I am more quiet, scared to say things I would normally say,... it's a very loud person and I just don't like that. But that is all I have to her. Maybe she is different alone but I sometimes do wonder why everyone likes her. She likes to be in the middle of everything, kind of like attention seeker. But not really either... To me she comes off as passive toxic. If I just observe her at parties I am always happy I only see her at these parties and not on vacations, trips etc... but maybe it's also cause I am mad about the splitting of our group and that she didn't invite me 3 years ago after I organised a trip first.

This feeling actually made me more silent, I avoid going to these parties more and more. I go more to the gym, do things with 2 other friends but I feel like I am isolating myself more and more and trying to find new people which is very hard. I go to the gym like 6 times a week and talk with someone there but that is it. This whole thing makes me feel like I am not really wanted anymore in that group and maybe she is saying things to my other friends about me. Or I am just thinking this going full psycho and nothing is going on. In the end maybe she just forgot to invite me and doesn't even care - but that I don't believe. This time she excluded me on purpose and invited the others who she normally never invites intentionally.

Hey, I was reading a lot lately and built myself a new plan after I followed my other one since weeks.

It's a simple 6-day Push/Pull/Legs - A/B rotation with a weekly rep scheme progression in it.

Rep ranges rotate forward for each version every inbetween each version (picture).

Exercises I have chosen:

PUSH A Barbell Bench Press Seated Dumbbell Shoulder Press Cable Chest Flys (mid-chest) Lateral Raises Cable Triceps Pushdowns EZ Bar Skullcrushers

PUSH B Dumbbell Bench Press Incline Barbell Press Dumbbell Flys (flat bench) Dips

PULL A Chest-Supported Rows Lat Pulldown Face Pulls Rear Delt Flys EZ Bar Curls Incline Dumbbell Curls

PULL B Pull-Ups Seated Cable Rows Straight Arm Pulldowns Reverse Pec Deck Hammer Curls Preacher Curls

LEGS A and B currently same: Leg Press Bulgarian Split Squats Leg Extensions Lying Leg Curls Standing Calf Raises

A couple of years ago, I started building a house. It was a huge project, and while I didn’t directly ask my friends for help, I quietly hoped some of them might offer. No one did, which was disappointing, but I didn’t confront anyone about it.

At the same time, I was planning a wedding with my wife last year. We invited my entire friend group (about 15 people) and had a great time (August 24). The last time we all saw each other was at a New Year’s gathering—but since then, things have gone quiet.

What’s happened now is that about 7 people from the original group have started doing more things together, but they don’t regularly invite the rest of us anymore. I’ve noticed I’m no longer naturally included. We haven’t had a falling out, but there’s been around 4 months of silence now, and I haven’t reached out either—partly because it feels awkward after this long.

Since then, I’ve also changed my lifestyle a bit. I started going to the gym regularly and I’ve pulled back from drinking, which the group still does a lot of on weekends. So maybe I’ve distanced myself too, without fully realizing it.

Now I feel kind of alone. I have barely any social contact outside of two others from the group who also seem to be excluded. And honestly, it’s been getting to me. At my age (early 30s), it feels hard to find new people to really connect with. I do say hi and chat a bit with regulars at the gym, but that’s as far as it goes. I wouldn’t feel comfortable just asking someone to go out to eat or hang out.

So I’m wondering:

Is this just a normal phase of life and friendship? Was I expecting too much back then? And is it worth trying to reach out again, or should I just accept the drift and try to build something new (somehow)?

I’d really appreciate any outside thoughts or similar experiences....

It keeps getting me if I see posts from my friend group when they go on vacation or trips together and put it on their status. Even if I likely wouldn't have time I'd think it would be cool if they would just ask if I wanted to join? But I don't seem to fit in at all anymore.