Have you ever failed at something? How did you get back up after that? (lemmy.world)

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Perhaps failure in college, class, career, or other things.

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[-] brygphilomena@lemmy.world 5 points 10 months ago

I flunked out of college. I was undiagnosed ADHD and my major was something that I genuinely have a passion for. But wasn't able to discipline myself to go to classes regularly. I don't think I would have done well in that field anyway.

It didn't really hurt me though, I ended up in a job that underpaid for too long until I got proper medical treatment for my ADHD and depression. Now I make a decent salary in a field that works well for me.

I love what I learned and would love to learn more, but the structure of college was something that was extremely tough to work through.

[-] Krejall@ttrpg.network 1 points 10 months ago

Hey, this is my exact story, including the undiagnosed ADHD, dropping out of college, the dead-end wage slavery for way too long, and now having a decent paying job that isn't what I went to school for, but that also doesn't kill my soul.

Except: I have an epilogue!

I still don't have a degree, but I never stopped practicing my art because I am simply incapable of stopping. It's what I do. I recently got a side gig that was my absolute unrealistic pie-in-the-sky dream job when I was in college, working for the very creators that inspired me to choose my major in the first place. College wasn't what got me there. It was passion for the artform, introspection/therapy to develop a more forgiving and accepting attitude toward myself, and sheer perseverance. I spent the first 18 years of my adult life thinking failure and dead ends were all the universe had to offer, but I kept trying anyway (mostly to spite that hostile universe in a 'fuck you, kill me yourself' kind of way).

It's not over until it's over. You don't know how your story ends. Keep trying. If someone says you missed your chance, fuck 'em. They can't see the future any more clearly than you.

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