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A mindset of a few HAES morons who can't understand that an unexcessive diet isn't pure torture and are in denial, (willfully or not,) about what the other sex finds or should find attractive.
Go to any porn site and look at the most popular videos, they're the body type that most people find attractive. Whereas chubby/fat fetishises are always much more niche.
Inb4: I'm not saying that we should all be unhappy unless we have pornstar quality bodies/partners, I know that they're simply unattainable for many people and that it is a fantasy style of thinking. I'm saying that implying that people are sick in the head for being attracted to the most popular body types and trying to shame people in to accepting your unhealthy lifestyle is full on denial.
Edit: People will downvote me for "being an arsehole", but I'm here to debate the truth of things the way I see them. Not to try the gentle/soft approach or to try being your friend. Sometimes the truth hurts.
A lot of the body types that are considered attractive at any given time in history (which varies over time) are quite unhealthy ones as well. Just think of the anorexic supermodels of the 1990s or the corsets that restricted breathing for an hourglass figure.
Heroin chic is back btw.
I'm not arguing that.
I'm arguing that guilt tripping anyone for being attracted to the most popular body types for no other reason than you not wanting to lose excess weight is silly and that simultainiously no one should be shamed for trying to achieve or maintain that attractive body type.
Fat arses at their battle stations in mom's basement can seeth all they like. Stacy likes Chad, not your sweaty blob of a body, and no, your great personality will not make up for that.
You've outed yourself as the basement dweller who spends more time with porn than with actual women.
I know it's meme terminology, it doesn't change the point I'm trying to make and you're just arguing about semantics.
I will admit that I used to look at women way out of my league and they were definitely not looking back, that's what inspired me to get fit. Call me vain or a fashion victim or porn addict or anything else. I get the attention that I want now and your name calling means nothing to me, chunkystyles.
Just FYI, using the concept of "leagues" is definitely a red flag.
People is people.
Interesting opinion, I've never heard that before.
I think attractive people mostly seek relationships with other attractive people, I don't think that's controversial.
How many couples do you know where one is absolutely stunning with a fit body and the other looks a roast ham? You could probably cherry pick a few but it'll be a huge minority or you'll find out that the ugly one is a multi millionaire or something.
A fair number of them. Long term relationships are based on things other than appearance.
Yea and with those couples? The stunner with the stud from Microsoft?
Yea that's called money.
You can say peeps is peeps and highlight outliers all you want but the generalizations are there because they're true.
Look up some hoe_math on YouTube. His charts are deadpan no bullshit. Brilliant stuff.
I'm pretty sure there are a lot of chubsters in this thread pissed off that they're getting some home truths because you've said absolutely nothing incorrect.
Clearly, that's why I hopped up on the downvote wagon with you, the truth is the truth, even if you don't like it.
What's ironic, is this guy (and the downvoters) seem incapable of recognizing that we are both right.
Exceptions, outliers exist, obviously, but that doesn't make the generalization not true. They are both true.
Look at the flipside, has anyone even see some tattooed, fit, charming guy with an old out of shape Karen on a back of his motorcycle? No? Why is that? Would that be because he can pull a fit, younger girl, or multiples of that?
None of this is new news. Railing at the system while using the system isn't going to change the system.
Instead of being bitter that you're starting position wasn't perfect, be grateful that the resources are almost universally available. You might not be able to get much of "A" but you don't need 100% of any of the like ~20 attributes that make you an appealing mate.
Like, dudes, the answers RIGHT THERE, how much closer would you be if you had worked on your skills instead of just bitching online or being bitter? So you have to work on shit, but guess what, WE ALL DO. Ffs. How's this so hard to grasp?
"a fair number".
A very vague answer that requires me to research your side of argument for you. Absolutely brilliant. Are you done?
Yes, I think my point was definitively proven.
I think your point could have been little more explicit, but this thread is obviously full of bitter fatties and it's not like it would change anything.
Imagine downvoting someone just because you're bitter that a fit and pretty woman would aim for a fit and handsome man and vice versa.
Thatβs great. It is all about Stacyβs mom, though. I hear she has it going on! π΅
Conversely, ask any stripper, and they'll tell you it's the girls with more common body types that get the most tips. The explanation is usually that these girls look more attainable.