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My point is rather to make it so that people, any people of all genders, couldn't be excluded from the conversation. As things stand, men and nonbinary people can be easily excluded should the tides turn. This is a precarious position and can lead to the reversal of the achievements we've made to guarantee equality.
I don't mean to sepatate the fight for women's, men's and nonbinaries' rights, but rather recategorize it in a way that guarantees everyone's voice in the conversation.
What you mean by feminism, this inclusive one, is what I mean by antisexism. If anything, it's simply reframing the terms to make them adequately reflect the status quo and exclude possibility for malice.
If we frame it as antisexism, not feminism, no one could come and say "actually, it's feminism" and sideline all non-women from the conversation. When it's antisexism, it's about everyone. And that seems to be exactly what we want to share - to have a common goal of shared humanity.
And the rest are just categories. It's not about some people embracing feminism, others embracing masculism and third embracing...enbyism?, it's just categories within a larger antisexist thought, coming from the idea that people should unite to combat all forms of sexism, not just one particular flavor.
In other words, we seem to talk about much the same thing, I just want to frame it in a way that puts more confidence in that non-women voices will always be heard as well.
And in this way I fully, %100 agree. Not sure your original comment gets that across personally I guess.
I agree that "antisexism" may be a better way to frame it in a vacuum, and perhaps even in the future. But I also think that in the present it is much harder to get across than the difference between a feminist and feminazi that is already more culturally defined if you get what I mean?
Anyways, I honestly think at this point we agree and that this conversation has become pointless semantics. :P