196
Community Rules
You must post before you leave
Be nice. Assume others have good intent (within reason).
Block or ignore posts, comments, and users that irritate you in some way rather than engaging. Report if they are actually breaking community rules.
Use content warnings and/or mark as NSFW when appropriate. Most posts with content warnings likely need to be marked NSFW.
Most 196 posts are memes, shitposts, cute images, or even just recent things that happened, etc. There is no real theme, but try to avoid posts that are very inflammatory, offensive, very low quality, or very "off topic".
Bigotry is not allowed, this includes (but is not limited to): Homophobia, Transphobia, Racism, Sexism, Abelism, Classism, or discrimination based on things like Ethnicity, Nationality, Language, or Religion.
Avoid shilling for corporations, posting advertisements, or promoting exploitation of workers.
Proselytization, support, or defense of authoritarianism is not welcome. This includes but is not limited to: imperialism, nationalism, genocide denial, ethnic or racial supremacy, fascism, Nazism, Marxism-Leninism, Maoism, etc.
Avoid AI generated content.
Avoid misinformation.
Avoid incomprehensible posts.
No threats or personal attacks.
No spam.
Moderator Guidelines
Moderator Guidelines
- Don’t be mean to users. Be gentle or neutral.
- Most moderator actions which have a modlog message should include your username.
- When in doubt about whether or not a user is problematic, send them a DM.
- Don’t waste time debating/arguing with problematic users.
- Assume the best, but don’t tolerate sealioning/just asking questions/concern trolling.
- Ask another mod to take over cases you struggle with, if you get tired, or when things get personal.
- Ask the other mods for advice when things get complicated.
- Share everything you do in the mod matrix, both so several mods aren't unknowingly handling the same issues, but also so you can receive feedback on what you intend to do.
- Don't rush mod actions. If a case doesn't need to be handled right away, consider taking a short break before getting to it. This is to say, cool down and make room for feedback.
- Don’t perform too much moderation in the comments, except if you want a verdict to be public or to ask people to dial a convo down/stop. Single comment warnings are okay.
- Send users concise DMs about verdicts about them, such as bans etc, except in cases where it is clear we don’t want them at all, such as obvious transphobes. No need to notify someone they haven’t been banned of course.
- Explain to a user why their behavior is problematic and how it is distressing others rather than engage with whatever they are saying. Ask them to avoid this in the future and send them packing if they do not comply.
- First warn users, then temp ban them, then finally perma ban them when they break the rules or act inappropriately. Skip steps if necessary.
- Use neutral statements like “this statement can be considered transphobic” rather than “you are being transphobic”.
- No large decisions or actions without community input (polls or meta posts f.ex.).
- Large internal decisions (such as ousting a mod) might require a vote, needing more than 50% of the votes to pass. Also consider asking the community for feedback.
- Remember you are a voluntary moderator. You don’t get paid. Take a break when you need one. Perhaps ask another moderator to step in if necessary.
view the rest of the comments
Is it weird to admit I'm not a huge fan of boardgames...? Am I the only one?
it's weird, but i'll be weird with you on this. i think the other commenter makes some valid points but there are legitimate reasons to generally dislike a medium. for example, i don't like waiting on other people to take their turns LOL (on a similar note, i prefer my media to be interactive, so i would also say i don't like movies or tv shows too much)
however, i'll also acknowledge that the other commenter had some valid points re: the people influencing the experience and playing co-op board games. which are things i've experienced and preferences i have
but sometimes it's cumbersome to say "i generally only like cooperative board games with cool people" lmfao
In a way? But also it's fine. Boardgames are a piece of media so not being a fan of the whole thing hits the same as "not being a fan of books" or "not being a fan of anime". Like, sure, your choices don't affect me, but you can see how it makes sense that its usually met with "you just haven't tried the right one."
Board games are a little unique as well because sometimes the problem is that you aren't in the right group to play them which is a whole other thing.
I thought a lot about what you say, and I think that's what it comes down to, truly. I just have never found the right people, and the many times I've tried, is another time of bad behavior. Like even just recalling (I was going to write out a few events, but decided not to) a few times that immediately came to mind, I'm having basically an anxiety or lk panic response.
Like it's like playing poker for the first time and people just take advantage of you. That isn't fun. Or the loot gremlin with the weak DM. It's technically just not the right people and not the platform's fault, but it's just every. time. and now I've a conditioned response to the subject where I'm used to politely declining and saying something dumb like "boardgames aren't my thing". And because this is the "totally anonymous" internet, I can talk about this more honestly without fear of hurting anybody's feelings since nobody's asking me to play.
Tldr, I think you're right and I'm a pariah among pariahs among pariahs.
If you ever feel like trying boardgames again, I suggest aiming for a cooperative boardgame. The players work towards a shared goal.
You can still have the issue of not having the right people. Some take too much of a leadership role on, trying to steer the other players to the most optimal moves on all of their turns. But I find it to be uncommon, or handled easily through communication.
Co-op boardgames have become my preferred style. I'm a bit too competitive and have found co-op to let me enjoy the time with friends more
🥲 someday...