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I couldn't agree more. And I don't think I'm being hateful here, I just honestly believe that monsters like that should get locked up for good. If they prove that they're a danger to other people (in this case, young, innocent women) and society by doing something so heinous, they should get jail for life, not writing essays...
Can we all agree on this?

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 17 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

Surprising no woman: Men are more likely to say they trust how officials handle sexual assault

The survey, which was first shared exclusively with The 19th, found that women are 14 percentage points more likely than men to say they think elected officials have done too little to prevent sexual assault. Women are also 13 percentage points more likely than men to say they think college sororities and fraternities hurt campus culture, and 10 percentage points more likely to say they don’t trust sororities or frats to respond appropriately to claims of sexual assault.

Happened to stumble on this and it's incredibly on topic with the comments I've been fielding today on this topic.

[–] ShadowOfMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

This...doesn't give me hope at all...
Still, it's important to talk about. Thanks Velma 💜

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 8 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Buried at the end of the article is a badass woman who is refusing to be silent to put a little pep back in your step:

Hunt said she is also frustrated by the silence from men.

“It should not be women’s job to tell you that you have to be pissed,” Hunt said. “You need to hold each other accountable. You need to call out your friends. And when a story like this comes out, you should be some of the first to speak up and say, ‘This is not alright.’ It’s not on your mother, your wife, your girlfriend or your daughter to bring it to your attention.”

“I challenge every man to do that.”

Hunt was involved in the ousting of former Maine Senate candidate Graham Platner, who was accused of sexual assault, and former Rep. Eric Swalwell of California, who resigned from Congress after he was accused of rape and sexual misconduct. Both men are Democrats.

Women are not likely to go silent on this issue soon. Social media and in-person protests on campuses and near seats of power continue to be peppered with women proclaiming that they, too, were assaulted. They, too, are Jane Doe.

“Women are done accepting predators in power, and we are fighting back with every lever available to us,” Hunt said. “We are making sure that violence against women is not just a liability but a dealbreaker for those looking to hold elected office, and this will be a motivating issue in the November midterms.”

Amen to her. We need more people like her, not just women, but men too. All the responsibility should not be on the women...
Amen 🩷