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This is literally my current relationship situation, and hey, I'm happy :3
We both look a bit different on the outside, but on the inside...this is us 🩷

Also I won't ever stop wearing this really fucking stupid-looking hoodie. You literally can't make me 😭

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[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 27 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I've always felt that bi+ ppl are an especially great match to trans ppl (though any can work) :3

[–] Miisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 4 days ago (3 children)

True! Don't know why, bi men at least seem to be the kindest and most supportive 🤷‍♀️

[–] BevsDad@lemmy.ca 21 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Can you blame us for liking you cuties?

Gender fuckery of some sort has been a common theme with the people I've liked so I'm just glad it works for everyone involved!

[–] Miisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 4 days ago (1 children)

"Gender fuckery" I'm dying 😂

Aww, we like you too 🥺
Well...a fraction of us like men, it seems lol. But those who do really, really like men. I promise :3

[–] BevsDad@lemmy.ca 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Hehe I really love that term. Sometimes it is the only one that fits lol

And yeah, I've definitely seen both sides of that coin and I don't take anyone's feelings personally. I'm just glad that my cuties experience euphoria when I do or say certain things and that I seem to become a safe place for them 🥰

[–] Miisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Damn. Just saying...you seem like an amazing partner :3
Thanks for being like that 🩷

[–] BevsDad@lemmy.ca 4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Thank youu! I do my best!

Tho I wish that I wasn't away from them for so long 🥺 Darn October storms are keeping me from my cuddles and I'm not happy about it.

[–] Miisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 3 days ago

I hope you get your cuddles back soon 🥺
Best of luck! 💜

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (2 children)

I feel it's because (generally), they like both either way and so their loved one transitioning is like having both cakes and eat it too /lh

Not in a chaser sense, but a genuine sense of "omg, amazing, i get to enjoy both sides from the same person?" and that for a trans person, being pre-transition, they can feel safer knowing chances are in their favour that the other will like them regardless.

Like I've heard tales w/ cishet and trans relationships where it is more of a coinflip -- sometimes they realise they do love them regardless, othertimes they realise, "sorry, i don't swing that way". And that is okay too, as long as it ends on good terms. That goes in general with most relationships and ties: whether they strand or not, having good terms is the big part.

Sure, it can still be the case that it doesn't work out eventually between bi and trans people in a relationship. But that's less likely to be due to the transition itself, and that's kind of relaxing in some way.

(signed, someone who got adopted by a bi person before)

[–] Miisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I'm gonna be brutally honest...
I started reading this and got super offended 😂
But then...you know, that actually makes a lot of sense. I think you're right.

My bf once told me "I don't love you as a boy or a girl...I love you as you" and I'm still not sure how to feel about that...but I'm starting to think it was a compliment ♥️
This was months ago. I am DENSE, lol

[–] Seralth@piefed.seralth.com 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Hmm it might be a compliment. But it needs 3 more months of peer review i think

[–] Miisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 4 days ago

My thoughts exactly! I can't be too careful!

[–] djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 4 days ago

yeah it's unironically this. It doesn't matter what's in someone's pants, I'm down. big "holy shit two cakes?" energy.

[–] WeirdGoesPro@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Hello, bi male friend of yours, here to accept that compliment!

[–] Miisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 4 days ago (1 children)

There you are! I was actually really starting to miss you, wondering if I had done something. No, reaching out didn't occur to me 😭

Forgive me for this...I somehow didn't piece together you were bi. It's good to know, tho! Keep being awesome 🩷

[–] WeirdGoesPro@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Sorry, I got crazy busy all of a sudden. I’ve driven about 1200 miles in the last three days for family obligations. I’m almost home though, so I’ll shoot you a message soon. 🙂

[–] Miisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 4 days ago

No problem at all! Family is important 🩷
It should be me sending you a message...new account...again😭

I'm going to sleep right now. Talk to you tomorrow! <3