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those people don't exist in many people's lives.
and even if they do, it's typically only temporary. people who get these lifelong deep authentic friendships... are pretty rare and lucky to have the circumstances in life that allowed for that.
like, a lot of people don't have those kinds of relationships and never seek them either, the concept just doesn't exist for them and they live their entire lives on a very surface level understanding of the world.
I don't know about you, but I don't understand how I can develop a deep authentic relationship with people who obsessed with shallow things like their social status and how expensive their car is compared to other people's cars... and that's what dominates the culture in my city. Or who fly into a long winded speech about their anxiety and despair over the fact they only make 350K last year or their stock portfolio only returned 5.5% instead of the 7% their account manager promised them...
I take that to mean that if you are weird then embrace it. That attracts other similarly weird people and those are the best kind. There's no point in being liked for being someone you're not so why pretend.
With who?