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I tried Tinder for the first time and it's genuinely awful. (reddthat.com)
submitted 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) by Anchorxiety@reddthat.com to c/casualconversation@piefed.social
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It's so obviously designed primarily to get you to spend money on it, not to help you meet people. Some people have liked me, but despite daily swiping, I have no matches. It's clearly hiding them to get me to pay. On top of that, I had to verify my profile several times as well because I kept getting locked out of my account. It also deleted my bio because it thought I was sharing a social media handle (because how dare you chat to somebody outside of Tinder).

And before anyone calls me a fool for continuing to use it, I'm deleting my account right now lol.

When it comes to dating, nothing tops just going out and meeting people face to face without predatory apps acting as a "middleman".

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[–] Penguincoder@beehaw.org 12 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

Tinder and match apps prey on the lonely and desperate. They have no interest in matching you or getting you off the platform. This is not a dig at you, just the modus operandi of such apps. I was in for a while too, but left because of the constant rejection and zero communication. You're much bettr off in meat space. As a divorced dad of two and a cancer diagnosis, ain't no hope of me competing with those Ryan Gosling types for ladies attention.

[–] Anchorxiety@reddthat.com 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Thankfully I'm not lonely or desperate, I just wanted to see what it's all about and if it was actually useful. Don't worry, no offence taken.

Being a man on dating apps certainly makes it feel like the population of men is vastly higher than the population of women lol! I swiped right on a lot of gorgeous girls but I'm probably just one in the huge pile of other dudes who have done the same.

I wish you all the best for your health my friend.

[–] Town@lemmy.zip 5 points 2 days ago

Okc is 75% men, and women swipe right on about 5% of profiles. It's not forgiving at all.