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The biggest surprise would definitely be that I'm trans, so I look completely different now than 19-years-old me might have imagined :D
Same age. 19 year old me had never even heard of trans people, so it would definitely be a shock, but I'd like to think a welcome one.
I sorta knew that trans people existed, but didn't know of hormone replacement (in the '00s Hungarian tabloids only spoke of surgeries when they mentioned trans people 🙄), and since I couldn't have passed without that, it never crossed my mind that me being trans was an option.
IDK. I think the half part is what gets me on this. I'm a similar age to you. But my 19 year old self was definitely a repper. My 12 or 13 year old self would be shocked. My 19 year old self would be understanding but horrified. They can both pound sand. I would have a lot of fun tormenting my 19 year old self. Would torment him with lurid descriptions of how I've had srs, am married to a cis het guy, and all that that implies. 🤣🤣🤣
oh I had to look up "repper", I see now :)
I know many trans people know their gender identity from an early age, and have strong convictions despite society's pressure, but being agender, I had no strong convictions about my gender, it wasn't even there. And I always tried to be practical, and so the only option that seemed available was to just try to put up with my born sex and assigned gender no matter how unhappy they made me 🫠