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The "Don't look them in the eye" rule is as misunderstood as Van Halen's removal of brown M&Ms.
When famous people have to navigate through hallways, etc., they have to pass others, and many people try to get their attention, so they can say Hi, tell them how much they love the artist, etc. Perhaps they just want to catch their attention and smile.
That artist is a person, like anyone else. They have a lot on their mind, and they are probably trying to get somewhere, to do something, and they are concentrating on that. They don't want to have to stop for every person, smile, say Hi, hear about how important they are, yadda yadda. They just want to get on with their thing.
Think about how you would feel if you had something important on your mind, with other people counting on you, and waiting for you, and you have to stop and act polite with every random stranger who wants to interact with you, so they can go home and tell everybody. Is it any wonder why celebrities are late to everything?
So they tell their staff to keep people from bothering them, and the easiest way to do that is to simply prohibit anyone from trying to look them in the eye. Obviously, if the VIP approaches you, asks you questions, looks you in the eye, that rule is off.
The M&M thing was because VanHalen had the biggest stage rig ever at the time, and they needed specific electric, lighting, etc. qualifications. They would arrive, and find venues inadequate because the venue didn't bother to read the contract. So they started adding the M&M thing so they knew as soon as they walked in the door if the venue had read the contract. If there were brown M&Ms, then it meant that the venue either hadn't read the contract, or had decided to ignore whatever clauses they felt like. Either way was a broken contract problem.
Dudes staff would message everyone who would would be in his vacinity at award shows to tell them not to look him in the eye. He's not performing, he's sitting in the stands. Sounds more like he was on the spectrum and couldn't cope with people well.
How dare you! Why would you suggest that a virtuoso prodigy with serious interpersonal antisocial quirks might be on the autism spectrum
That sounds like something people would say about their dogs
I could definitely see the spectrum angle for obvious reasons, but I swear I heard somewhere it was more a request by his staff because he was too friendly and he'd spend way too long talking to everyone. I may be running off someone else tho