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What is Neurodivergence?

It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc

“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”

So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned


Rules

1.) ableist language=post or comment will probably get removed (enforced case by case, some comments will be removed and restored due to complex situations). repeated use of ableist language=banned from comm and possibly site depending on severity. properly tagged posts with CW can use them for the purposes of discussing them

2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence

2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals

3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven't personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you're ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another's, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who's experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm'd.

3.5) everyone has their own lived experiences, and to invalidate them is to post cringe. comments will be removed on a case by case basis depending on determined level of awareness and faith

4.) Interest Policing will not be tolerated in any form. Support your comrades in their joy!

Further rules to be added/ rules to be changed based on community input

RULES NOTE: For this community more than most we understand that the clarity and understandability of these rules is very important for allowing folks to feel comfortable, to that end please don't be afraid to be outspoken about amendments and addendums to these rules, as well as any we may have missed

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i graduated high school and i notice that everybody keeps referring to interpersonal hatred as ”high school behaviour” but i think that this lasts forever and you have to actively work against being bullied like for the rest of your life. it happens in the workplace, in college, in nursing homes, on the internet etc. its inescapable. working against being rejected/harmed is as repetitive as bills are for most adults

i feel like we neurodivergents are especially burdened with having to be self aware and think about every social interaction. you have to be self aware if youre ugly and not post certain things and not talk to certain people and not do certain things.

its so exhausting and i barely feel like a human being anymore. so much of my energy goes towards getting smoothly through social interactions. i feel like ive lost contact with myself.

and now with the internet neurotypicals are even more furious about this. they have rules about what to post on tiktok and what to post on instagram and how to respond to comments and what to do what to do what to do what to do what to do what to do what to do what to do what to do what to do what to do. the internet used to be a place where i could talk to people without social rules i didnt understand but now both here and IRL you have to deal with endless social rules that you get no relief from ever.

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[–] ProgAimerGirl@hexbear.net 9 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (4 children)

it's not even safe here. i took comrade out of my tags because the /them got me maliciously degendered in a thread where my defensive use of misogynistic language (i called myself the b-slur) was post removed while a dogpiling user got to copy that post out of the modlog, complete with the unfiltered slur, and smear me with it, in the thread, while i was tempbanned for that very comment.

part of me wants to never post here again, to not post this comment, to not drag my hurt out into the open for the amalgamated fear/apprehension/anger at sharing space with that fucker referenced above again, and with the moderator that failed across multiple requests to do their job and take that shit down before it drove me off the site, and with the community that didn't notice for an instant that it lost a trans shitposter in an ugly and embarrassing way.

another part of me weeps bitterly in cratered desire for community. i liked that poster, for the most part, before this shit happened. now, seeing their account is a trigger. basically the only thing i use the site for now is to lurk the news meta; thankfully, that poster is never in there.

I AM NOT BACK. i'm not telling you even half of the shit that went down here. handling one jerk with dignity is not what this is; mod behavior really fucked me up. this is not 'enough time has passed.' i have momentarily overcome demiurgic isolation to vent some shit that i cannot keep holding alone. hopefully i won't regret it. I AM NOT BACK.

edit: sorry

[–] uokgerku@hexbear.net 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I am 99% certain that user has been banned multiple times for behavior like this but they keep making new accts or switching to accts they made before u needed to apply for one

Massive problem with this site imo is all the banned ppl just switching to their billions of alts or making new accts and continuing their behavior cuz fundamentally u can get away with pretty much anything on this site as long as you don't trigger word filters and most importantly: the average Chapo-listening irony poisoned cishet white guy "dirtbag leftist" chud finds it funny and u are acting in a manner consistent with winning an internet argument by their standards. And if it finally catches up to u, just switch to a new acct

I used to bring this up in the semi-secret invite-only mod chat (Hexbear is a site which runs on pointless secrecy and behind-the-scenes politicking) along with specific instances back when I was more invested in the internal politics of this site, before I deleted my acct when I had hit a limit on Hexbear bullshit, but nothing was ever done about it

I was just looking for evidence to support my vagueposting :3 I can't find the specific post I remember where he was crashing out on an alt about his latest ban. It's rare to find posts where ppl connect all their alts for u ofc hehe. Most of the time it's just a pattern of behavior and a style of writing consistent with a guy

If anyone cares, DM me and I will attempt to substantiate and give u my old username. Can prolly find my old msgs in the mod chat if you're in there and Matrix crypto bullshit doesn't prevent u from reading them

I would be in favor of making this site invite-only or smth and purging all the old inactive accts from the database

edit: sorry

soviet-heart U didn't do anything wrong, I'm sorry this happened to u :(

I deleted my original acct of 4 years cuz I felt similarly and only recently kinda "came back"

[–] edie@lemmy.encryptionin.space 8 points 3 days ago

So many good people have been driven of this website.


This user is suspected of being a cat. Please report any suspicious behavior.

[–] Sneakytrickyyy@hexbear.net 8 points 3 days ago

I'm sorry to hear this happened to you, this site should do better.

meow-hug

[–] opiumfree@hexbear.net 3 points 3 days ago

dmed u something