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[CW] suicide baiting. (hexbear.net)

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I feel like the term lost its meaning and became a way to purity test suicidal people, a few weeks ago I was in a situation so stressful I was going to kill myself at that moment if I didn't wait a few more minutes. I told this to someone out of desperation and shock and he said "don't suicide bait for sympathy points" and left it there, I know that the term comes because it is abusive for example to threaten a friend or a partner with suicide if they don't comply with what you want from them. But, there are suicidal people who would probably benefit from having empathy. Anyone knows what i'm talking about or has experience about this?

P.S. I'm not suicidal, just the stress of that incident messed me up bad in that moment.

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[–] CommunistCuddlefish@hexbear.net 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Sorry that happened to you. People like that suck. Dort_Owl is right, you deserve better than to be jumped on for expressing anguish.

personal experience

BTW there's a lot more nuance when it comes to suicide than is commonly acknowledged. My evil ex emotionally abused me to the point where I saw suicide as the only way out if they wouldn't stop. I made the mistake of telling them to try to see if we could work out a better solution (like, I don't know, they actually put in some effort to get help to not be an abusive piece of shit like they insisted they would). They spun it and got some of my then-friends to accuse me of being abusive for not being willing to play the part of their scapegoat. Apparently it's "inherently abusive" to not lie down and take it.

So now I don't take concerns about that sort of thing anywhere near as seriously, because I've lived through it being weaponized to run cover for the abuser.