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I swear, when someone's talking to me now, I can barely understand what's happening. I know I'm no spring chicken anymore but I wish I was 16 again lol when I experience things it's like it's a memory or like I'm at the back of my head. It's hard to explain. Every thing here is getting gradually worse over the years. Suffice to say, I'm not looking forward to my 40's..

That being said I feel like I'm making a big deal out of something most women my age just get on with and put up with for the rest of their lives without complaining

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[–] lokalhorst@feddit.org 1 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

Anybody else got a Déja-Vu? I remember some months ago some person describing these kind of symptoms and all the comments told OP that's bs. Then OP said they did all tests and everybody was wrong. I was here before!

[–] RunawayFixer@lemmy.world 4 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

I got a déjà-vu from last week. Same person I think, but I'm not a 100% certain since they deleted their old posts. They've already been told extensively that this is not age related.

[–] Theoriginalthon@lemmy.world 1 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

At this point I'm thinking dementia or some other neurological issues.

[–] RunawayFixer@lemmy.world 2 points 2 hours ago

This just seems like good old cognitive dissonance to me. This article calls this specific kind of cognitive dissonance"belief perseverance", which seems very apt: https://philosophy.institute/epistemology/addressing-unjustified-beliefs/

*A reasonable question arises: if unjustified beliefs are so clearly at odds with the evidence, why don’t people simply change their minds when confronted with facts? The answer lies in understanding that rational belief revision is not merely a matter of receiving new information. It requires that the evidence be recognized as relevant, assessed without distortion, and allowed to actually alter the existing belief structure – each of which is complicated by the mechanisms described above.

Confirmation bias means that contradictory evidence may not even be registered at full strength. The availability heuristic means that striking supporting examples continue to feel more representative than they are. And the psychological costs of belief revision – the discomfort of cognitive dissonance, the threat to identity – create a strong motivational force pushing back against change.*

The entire article is well worth a read imo.