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See a doctor - this ain't normal
I have, and was told everything's normal. I've had full blood counts, hormone tests, vitamin and mineral tests, the works.
Get used to that. Doctors didn't care about any of my symptoms until I could no longer walk. They only care about what they can see
It's not about what they can see. I've had bloodwork done, and I've seen the lab results for myself since I requested to have them printed. I'm no longer going to pursue this because at this point it'll be like I'm a hypochondriac unhealthily obsessed with her health. I've got other things to do in my life. I just need to get on with it and cope with it.
Surely you must understand that the most basic blood tests can't find everything that can be wrong. There are thousands of tests
Off the top of my head, without getting my magazine-thickness stack of lab result papers I had them print out, I've had TSH, hb1ac, potassium, sodium, urea, LH, FSH, prolactin, DHEA, testosterone, androgens, b12, folate, ferritin, full blood count, full white cell count, IgA, calcium, estrogen, ca-125, etc tested.
My white cells have been low since the testing began, but I was told this is normal because as you age your immune system declines.
The standard lab ranges are defined by “at least some people don’t show symptoms of deficiencies or issues or etc at these levels,” not “everyone is guaranteed to be fine in these ranges.” I was “in range” with B12 until I started developing nerve damage from a deficiency of it, with years of symptoms leading up to it that were ignored because I was “in range.” I was “in range” with folate, because the standard lab tests inactive folic acid and not active folate. I was “in range” with ferritin, and yet had significant improvement from taking more iron. I was “in range” with potassium and then ended up in the ER multiple times from hypokalaemia so bad that I could barely move.
You get the idea. “In range” is not the same as “will get no benefit from supplementing it,” but it’s the kind of thing that ideally is done with proper medical assistance if you think you’re deficient in things.
If you're a hypochondriac, it's because you're inventing these symptoms. If you actually have them, it's an actual problem.
Hypochondria can also include having normal symptoms but making them out to be more of a big deal than what they really are. For example, there's lots of men who will call a cold "man flu". That's a form of hypochondria since most people get colds but deal with them.
There's more recent evidence that men's immune systems can be more deeply impacted by flu viruses, causing aches and pains all over their bodies that women don't usually experience.
Its more than that. Women have a significantly better immune system, and I'm jealous up until the massively increased likelihood of autoimmune disease. Almost all autoimmune diseases occur in women. OP should really look into autoimmune issues.
I know a 20yo woman who has advanced MS with similar symptoms to what she has.
That's gonna eat into your mental health in the long term. Better be careful!
I'll be strong.
After your latest post i think i know what is wrong. You need to stop staying awake all night. Humans need to sleep.
Tell Thai Ngoc that.
And there is a family in the USA with a genetic abnormality that gives them nearly unbreakable bones. Does that mean everyone should have unbreakable bones?
I don't have a solution, but just wanted to say that doctors can be very unreliable.
I've been told that I'm the textbook case of a healthy man in my late 20s, all the while suffering from balance issues, surprise naps, confusion, weakness, and inability to properly parse speech some 1-4 days of the week.
Obviously one should still listen to the doctors, for who else can we rely on, but to me your situation sounds very "normal" which is definitely not a good thing!
Perhaps get a second opinion by a private doctor? I'm considering it by now...
Best of luck!
And it took me twelve years to get treatment for andometriosis after monthtly crippling pain. It took me another seven for an ADHD diagnosis. Doctors are mostly shit, especially to women.
You want support for this? Fine. But stop phrasing it like it's a normal part of aging as a woman.
I dunno if you want a reply from a guy.
I am on meds that have some wild side effects, I know what they are and I can deal with them on small amounts.
At no point have I dealt with more than 2 of them at once.
At no point are they any where near anything you have described.
If they were, I would complain and hopefully change meds or change doctor.
You need to continue getting help.
You need to get medical help. Professional help. Not Fediverser.
Some of these may be "normal" (I dunno, I ain't a gal), but all together they are not. And they are affecting your life , so SOMETHING is wrong.
You have enough of a list (as well as enough conviction to argue against the popular comments)... Sounds like you have enough evidence and conviction to find a doctor that can actually help you.
Keep trying, keep working to get help.
Hypochondria is still a medical condition, it can still be treated.
But I don't believe (not a doctor) it actually transverses physical conditions like back pain and vomiting.
So maybe it's both? Mental health is still medical.
Seriously, don't give up of actual qualified medical help. Keep trying, keep going until you are happy.
This is key: keep going until you get the help you need