Ask Lemmy

Not my case cause I'm happily taken but I hate seeing my colleagues and friends just mindlessly "dating". No objectives, no direction, just going out for the sake of intoxication and fornication, and sometimes they get into situationships, sometimes they don't, their longest relationship is a 6 month fling. How hedonistic, immature and overall depressing.

The tea is that ever since they made reliable, non-disgusting or super invasive contraception, nothing has been the same. Sure, an intelligent person can still make their way in the world but most people are basically cattle so, if they're not lucky enough to be rightly guided, they'll just act in the expected ways. Imagine how different things would be if the possibility of pregnancy was truly always there. Abortions are really uhh uncomfortable at the very least on different levels, and most ladies aren't planning on getting one, so that's no solution either. Both men and women would keep it in their pants, date for the purpose of finding a partner with whom you could build a life and a family with and avoid fornication (for "practical" reasons and not just ethical ones). And then people would more easily get paired up, and there would be fewer confusions regarding romantic relationships. Hook-up culture is the expected result of reliable contraception and a lack of ideology/moral teachings regarding sex and relationships. What else could happen in the vacuum of guidance besides hedonism and confusion ? But the cat is out of the bag now so y'all will have to make these decisions yourselves, without the motivating risk of unwanted children.