Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Rainbow Railroad // A non-profit international humans rights organization helping at risk LGBTQ+ people relocate to safety.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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I don't think we can give you constructive feedback without knowing you a lot better. But here's what I did to figure out mine, and maybe you can extract some ideas.
I made a list of names I came up with which has a nice ring to them. Not too much pre-filtering, just brain storming. Then searched online for popular names in my generation & region, as well as currently popular baby names (though as you probably know, some names just sound weird or make you stick out of they are strongly associated with a different age). The online name lists helped me to not miss a great opportunity just because I didn't think of it. As I like mythological names, I added some of those to the list, just like you might add some personal idols. Next I went through the list and crossed off any that I couldn't really consider claiming for myself ("Luna? Nah I'm too old for that. Stella? Great but feels too pretty for me. Sophie? Mmmaybe, yeah that could work.")
Next is some playing around, imagining being called that way or writing/taking about yourself (note: personally, I found the experience of actually having others call me by a new name when I didn't anticipate it very different from what I imagined). Online tools like the one suggested by @dressedandconfused@mtgzone.com can help.