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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Rainbow Railroad // A non-profit international humans rights organization helping at risk LGBTQ+ people relocate to safety.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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What are your physical characteristics? I like the name Wren, but I'd never use it for myself because wrens are tiny and I'm more of an ostrich. I also like the name Laila but wouldn't use it for myself because it's not really appropriate for a blonde blue eyed person.
Lilly is a good solid trans name, my association is with Lili Elbe. Unfortunately she died from infection due to an attempted uterus transplant.
Stella I associate with domestic abuse and Belgian pilsner. Nice meaning but the beer is actually referred to as "wife beater" in Britain and I think that association would be a deal breaker for me personally.
Sophie's choice... Probably also my choice
Another thing to consider is what is most fitting for a woman of your age and nationality? Like Erin is very popular in Britain now, but would be very strange for a woman of my age.
I overthink everything. Sorry ๐
There are two kinds of transfemmes:
Those who choose a sensible name that suits their demographic (age, location, physical characteristics, etc.)
Those who just choose a completely random/unique/non-standard name (me) :3
Mine is a mix of both: Echedelle.
Is a derivative of an aboriginal name (my a feminization of my deadname) with 2 easter eggs and a lewd reference on it (in spanish).
Wow that stella association is intense.
Yeah i'll have a think which name also suits me in terms of age/nationality etc. Laila is a solid name
Also your all good :)
RE Lili Elbe, it's moreso that she died due to immunosuppressors not being a thing yet at the time. Those became a thing multiple decades after her death, iirc.
There are virtually no Ada's my age. They're all 30 years younger than me or 30 years older than me. And my birth name was genuinely one of a kind.
I think that sort of thing is worth thinking about, but it's not something worth giving too much consideration, because you're the one that has to live with it and other people just don't care that much.