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No, I've had some pretty good friendships and real ones are not supposed to be like that at all.
Thinking of people as disposable like that, of just getting them out the drawer using them when convenient and then putting them back in the drawer again, is one of the many symptoms of the throwaway society we have developed and is not normal at all.
We treat objects like this, we treat the Earth like this, we treat life like this, so it's unsurprising that we treat other people like this too, because it's become so normalised, we grow up thinking that way, that we don't even think of it as abnormal anymore.
We're supposed to have evolved to have maybe 100 relationships max in our entire lives. I think now that we are surrounded by a sea of people with nothing particular tying us to any of them, nobody is worth putting the effort into because they could just easily drift away--change jobs, get married, move, find another group of friends, etc.
Online dating is the perfect embodiment of this. Nobody wants to commit because of this itch that there's someone better out there.
When the right person, or people, come along, whether as friends or as lovers they are worth putting your all into. In my experience anyway. The trouble is that the right people are so damn rare. If nearly everybody treats each other as disposable, then is it any wonder that real love or friendship can hardly be found?
I mean forget about 100 people max… most don’t even have 10 real friendships/relationships. People don’t even connect with their own damn neighbors anymore even in the ok neighborhoods.
When the right person, or people, come along, whether as friends or as lovers they are worth putting your all into. The trouble is that the right people are so damn rare. If nearly everybody treats each other as disposable, then is it any wonder that real love or friendship can hardly be found? I mean forget about 100 people max... most don't even have 10 real friendships/relationships. People don't even connect with their own damn neighbors anymore even in the ok neighborhoods.
BTW I'm the exact same c64z86 you just replied to above, just to avoid any confusion! I'm new at this so I'm trying out a bunch of different lemmies and Piefeds, but so far I'm liking this one the most. It even allows GIF banner profile images! XD