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Remember folks, social skills are not inherent. They are learned, practiced, and honed. The more you use them the better you tend to get.
For the neurodivergent in here who struggle with being sociable. One simple hack: ask a person about themselves and then listen to their reply. Follow-up questions are good. Its true what people say: the sweetest sound to the ear is your own voice. Abuse this trick when possible.
but it's also rude to be bad at social interaction so you're imposing on people to get any practice in if you ever fall behind your peer group as a child.
this is true of any group-based skill. same if you are bad at softball and you join a local softball club. but if you tell people "hey im kinda not great at this but im excited to be here" there is a lot of grace others will give you. it works for social situations too. "hey, i kinda have social anxiety but bear with me im trying to get out more" doesn't come off in the way you might think it does. at least, it doesnt come off bad to the kind of people you should be around. The kind of people who have empathy and are decent
the studies i've seen headlines and one paragraph blurbs of suggest that saying you're bad at things primes people to be put off, rather than soliciting grace. puts them on guard to notice any faux pas that they might've ignored or let slide if the interaction was otherwise going well.
if thats true then game theory and tell people you are great at social interactions and if they feel awkward its them that are bad
you just hacked social interaction
nice fantasy but i don't think that follows
protip: in social situations, whatever you are doing right now, dont
hope that helps
forum discussions aren't irl. i know how to codeswitch.