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The world isn't like that though.
The reality of the world is most people want to meet at a bar or do an activity, and that costs money. And men are expected to pay for the dating. Splitting the tab is now very rare. People are a lot more traditionally sexist than they were 10-20 years ago.
I date. Most women want to be wined and dined, or they want to do a trendy activity date. Even if I take a woman out to a museum and a glass of wine, it's going to run me $100. Museum tickets are 30-40 dollars pp, and the wine is going to be 15-20 a glass.
Women I met used to offer to split, but that basically stopped happening post pandemic. Now they never offer to split. I've also noticed surge in women demanding traditional gender role dating both in person and on dating apps. Nobody is a feminist anymore like they were 10 years ago. They all want 'masculine men' and they want to be 'feminine women'. A lot more women I meet now are now asking me if I am 'actually straight/gay' now too. No woman was asking me if I was gay 10 years ago. Gender expectations have changed and regressed.
Article is talking about the dating world, as it is, as of 2026. Not how it used to be, not how it ought to be.
You're living in a prison of your own making. I hope you escape one day.
yeah, I'm also impinging that gas prices aren't 5 bucks a gallon right now. it's totally a figment of my imagination!
if i just think different, they were magically be 3 bucks again.
You're completely missing their point friend. You think you HAVE to spend $100+ on a date and that's "just reality". You could go on a date for free if you really wanted to. But no, you HAVE to spend $100+ for a date you don't have a choice you NEED to spend $100+ or nobody would ever agree to go on a date.
We're all living in prisons of our own creation cuz we get an idea in our head and think that's how it HAS to be.
do you date?
nobody goes on free walking dates dude. at least proper adults. that is a construct your in your head.
last time i went on a 'walking date' i was a in my early 20s. yeah it was fine back then. 35 year old women dont' wanna go for walks in the park, they want to go on a proper date.
I can see the guard has those gates firmly shut and chained. Hoping you can get out some day.
And fyi, I went on a 3 hour walk in a park with my now partner on our first date. Getting to know someone is the most important part of a date and you can do that for free, if you would only believe that you could. Maybe the people you are trying to date don't want to do things like "go for a walk" or "get to know the other person".
cool, was she a 40 year old woman in 2026 at that time?
No? Gee it's almost as if you are projecting your past experiences into the present/future.
just like when grandpa used to talk about marrying grandma and popping out 3 kids the time he was 24. that is nice and all, but it's not 1956 anymore. it's 2026. nobody in their sane mind in 2026 thinks teenagers should be marrying at 17/19 and popping out 3 kids. the world has changed.
just like 20 years ago nobody had computers in their pockets and social media didn't exist.
lecture me all you want grandpa about how it 'should be', it won't change the fact it's 2026 and this is how the world works today. i suppose you think a new house should only cost 5,000 dollars too? i got a newflash for you, homes now cost well over 500K and new ones are closer to a million dollars. clearly that's my fault, the prison of my mind is what is making housing prices so high... if only i had a 'positive attitude' homes would be magically be 5000 dollars again! or my income would be 500K a year!
Sounds like you've got a lot going on, hope you can find a way through it
There is nothing to 'get through'. I have nothing 'going on'. my life is great. I'm doing better than like 90% of people. I have a high paying job I love, pets, a home, and a great fulfilling life. But I can't use any of that to change other people or the world around me. I'm not God.
Your presumption that the material and social conditions of reality around me are a personal failing of mine, is what is wrong. I didn't vote for Trump to tank the economy, but yet, I still must deal with that because other people around me decided he would be a good president. And like everyone else, now I have to face the reality of getting paid less, taxed more, and my cost of living going far more quickly than it would have had he not been president... all so he can make more billions for himself and cut tax rates on the 1%. Under Biden I was getting 5-10% yearly raises... because he was investing in this country.
marriage and birthrates are plummeting across the developed world, it's far worse in parts of Europe and Japan/Korea. Because the material and social conditions there are even worse than they are in the USA. Look a Japan if you want to see the future of the USA, where nobody actually dates anymore and people increasingly hire hire professional fake partners for social events to keep up appearances that they are dating.
but my personal attitude is what is causing people in Japan to not pursue marriage and children! clearly!
Yeah just seems like no matter what I say you're just gonna type paragraphs of doomer shit. Clearly you're in a bad place mentally (since you assumed I was only talking about your physical, material conditions and not your mental state all but confirms it) and you are dead set in your view and nothing will ever change that. Good luck tho!
I think this guy drives a truck he struggles to afford...
i drive a hatchback that gets 40mpg. the women i meet want me to drive a gas guzzling truck, because it's 'masculine'.
the point you don't understand is you can't create reality around you by thinking happy thoughts.
reality exists whether you acknowledge it or not. buying a different car won't change the basic economic facts of reality that govern the cost of things. i can choose not to ever eat out, but the prices of restaurants will not change because i eat there or not.
well, that's me fucked,i drive an ecar I charge of my solar panels, i also have and prefer my ebike
but to be fair, I don't need to tilt the front of my seat up on my bike to have it mash into my balls for ball maxing
https://www.foxnews.com/outkick-culture/ballmaxxing-electrifying-addictive-euphoric-transcendental-according-pursuing-bigger-balls
as theres noting more masculine and ball maxxing then making your own fuel :)
it's fucked, but what isn't in 2026? our government is fucked, our economy is fucked, dating is fucked.
wot ? do they ask you if you're vegan while you're eating a steak ?
why are we dating and not fucking ? :)
indeed.
i read books, i cook, my apartment is very clean. i have a pet cat. it makes them uncomfortable that I do these things.
women think this means you are not a real straight man. real straightmen can't cook, they don't eat, and they are gross and dirty and they have a dog.
literately have had more than one woman over to my place tell me it creeps her out that my place is too clean and i must have maid service, so i say no i just like to keep it clean, and they immediately get upset. probably because they hire a maid service and are slobs.
Move, maybe? Do you live in a red state?
I live in Boston. I love it here. I own a home and it's the best living here.
I'm not moving just to get laid more. Thanks.
Surprised you're running into so many gender-trads in Boston.
Then again, rent in Boston is crazy; maybe it's not manliness, but that they are looking for breadwinners? Men with beacoup bucks don't clean. You said you drive a practical car, not a status symbol. Dogs with pedigrees are expensive. Etc.
People in Boston are socially conservative. They are mostly center-right democrats, not progressives. They like Hillary Clinton, and they HATE Bernie Sanders. They hate poor people just as much as the republicans do, they just don't hate them based on race or sex, they just hate them for not being rich and going to elite colleges.
I'm a progressive, and yeah most women here are turned off by that. They want a traditional guy who will pay their bills for them so they can quit working and travel with his money. And yes, they all have $10,000 dogs.
My dog is a $200 rescue dog. So was my cat. If i don't clean my apartment would be disgusting from all the fur covering everything.
I'm not going to pretend that I understand everything happening to today's young daters, but what you're describing isn't true in my circles (which skew older and richer, but where the people going on dates are more likely to be divorced and/or have children from prior relationships, but where $200 on a weeknight dinner is not unusual or a financial stretch).
More importantly, I still stand by my description of how the article mangled the underlying studies. Dating can be expensive, but not everyone who goes on a $200 date in that survey is going on a first date with a stranger, and $93 is probably a better metric to follow to understand what is happening.
The rest of my comment is just a description of what I believe will both reduce the amount of money spent on first dates and increase the expected value of that date by deferring any decision to spend any money by only going on dates with people you already kinda know and already like. If you don't believe that advice is practical for your current circumstances, I'm sorry to hear that, but I wonder if you can find another way to achieve similar effects.
i can't change the world around me anymore than i can lower gas prices.
How many dates do you go on that aren't from dating apps?