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Then stop going out for dates. Who convinced you that capitalism has to be a third wheel on your dates? Y'all too dependent on market capitalism to provide for you.
Where are they gonna go? We destroyed most of our third places, or made them so expensive to extract maximum profits.
Dinner is expensive, movies are expensive, small friendly local shops have been disappearing in favor of sterile corporate ones.
For a lot of people the only option would then be a home, which doesn't work great for a lot of reasons.
Non-matinee theater prices aren't that bad. Just don't load up on giant ass overpriced popcorn and sodas.
Coffee dates are a thing. They're expensive for coffee, but if you break a hundred at a coffee shop, you're probably going to the hospital.
Public parks exists. Ice skating rinks aren't that expensive. Book stores.
Ice cream!
Pizza places have somehow stayed inexpensive.
Hell, the gold standard first date: getting a beer at a bar is not that expensive, still.
If your only idea for a date is a high end fancy ass multi course dinner, with cocktails, then yeah, you're gonna have issues...
Where the hell do you live that you can claim this? Your pizza comment was also kind of funny as most places near me are honestly pretty expensive. I guess you could go to Little Caesars or something lol
Those aren't dates. those are friends/family activities.
How many women think it's romantic to take her to a movie at 12pm for the cheap matinee show and then take her out for a $3 coffee afterwards? dating is about romance. romance is going to a evening film, and think a nice dinner afterwards. she wants you to take her away fro a weekend to a nice bnb in the coutnryside or a beachhouse, she wants to go traveling with you to another country.
You know how enjoys 12pm movie and ice cream dates? my nephews when they were children. women don't want to be treated like 6-12 year old children. they want to go on adult romantic dates. and those are expensive.
yeah, after we are married and pop out a kid or two, i'm sure she'd like a 12pm movie and going for ice cream, but that's not courtship.
You're describing very established couples style dates, not just started dating dates.
You continue chasing those materialistic people who refuse a low key ice cream/coffee date, I guess. It's your wallet.
If your only way to keep a woman interested is throwing money at it, then that says a lot about you.
Most women want to be treated like a person, not a trophy to be won by hitting an arbitrary budget threshold. Romance is an interaction between two people. The activity doesn't much matter if you're actually connecting.
Dating is whatever you want it to be. There's no rules. Women can be chill and just want to hang out and spend time with you. There's tons of low cost/free activities.I don't spend that kind of money until I'm sure the relationship is going somewhere and even then it's for special occasions not regular dates. If whomever I'm dating has a problem with that they can find someone else. I'm not interested in paying to play.
Reading through a load of your comments in this thread and I think you really just need to lower your own standards. I promise you that not all women are so very money-centric as you are making them out to be.
I legitimately forgot how bad it is in America. I'm like why don't you take the train to somewhere for a nice walk? I forgot you guys can't really do those things with your infrastructure.
My first date with my husband, we went for a walk at a park..
Edit: whoever replied I have you blocked already, so have fun, I cant see your comments.
Yeah, my partner of 10+ years went on multiple dates to museums, parks, and botanic gardens in the first month. We ate delicious Mexican food after, all super cheap.
This was great because now it’s a tradition for us to go to museums on every vacation.
aw I love that
museum entry where i live is $50 now. yeah 15 year ago it as $15-20. i used to get a yearly membership for $60, now that membership is $200.
mexican dinner used to be $10, sure, but now it's $15-20 for a burrito at a cheap place, and a nice sit down mexican place is going to be $25-30 for a burrito.
so many people here are out of touch with how dating and going out costs are in 2026. you are living 10-20 years in the past.
My museum dates were taking advantage of free museum Tuesdays for residents.
You have stated you live in Boston, I was there last year. Beautiful city with so many inexpensive museum options, plus the massive park that had events going on every day that I was there and the historical walks were great. Try some of these:
Many of these have discounted admission for residents and members. There is also the Boston Aquarium, which is $39.95 per person, but that can easily be turned into a multiple hour event and membership is only $79 per individual. They aren’t all $50, you just have to look at their websites and check for discounts.
Women don't want to go on museum dates. they are considered cheap and low effort.
Wow, let's go to the BPL and watch homeless people masturbate to porn on the public PCs, SO ROMANTIC, so charming! Let's go to the constitution and hang out with a sweaty crowd of poorly dressed tourists! wow, so romantic! lets go to the aquarium and enoy the stink of penguin shit and hordes of unsupervised kids running around! wow! so romantic!
How do I know? I ask them out to them and they tell me I'm cheap and they deserve better and they reject the idea and then reject me for suggesting it. What do they always say yes to? going out for dinners and cocktails...
Most of those aren't even museums, btw. They are like single rooms, and some of them are just straight up gross on the inside. The MFA is $30 for a basic ticket, and more for special exhibits. That's more a of a legit museum date that I would take someone on. Two tickets for a special exhibit is $80, because they include lots of fees and you have to book them online because they are time and sell out.
Please tell me more how you don't date and know nothing about my city. You were a tourist. You don't live here. You got the mile high tourist experience. You think I should pretend to be a tourist who thinks Boston is amazing by going to our crappy cheap museums... but in my world everyone has been to these places dozens of times already and they have no interest in going to a Harvard Natural history museum they went to when they were a teenage on a school trip.. so they can see the exact same rocks and stuffed animals they saw 20 years ago. A lot of the places you are suggesting are crappy and unchanging and boring to a local resident and I don't even want to go to them myself.
Yeah, when I travel I go to lots of museums, it's fun. But the vast majority are one and done, as a local doesn't repeatedly visit them because, nothing changes. Aside from the MFA, which is the only museum we have that really rotates things regularly, due to their massive collection.
I know you are trying got 'be helpful', but what you are suggesting dates for teenagers or out of town tourists. Not working urban professionals in their 30s/40s. That's what I am and that's who I date. The last time I went took a woman on a cheap museum date I was like 25 and broke and so was she, but I'm not going to take a 35 year old woman to a museum for children and she is going to think I am a man-child weirdo for suggesting we do that. They are grown ups and they want to do grown up things, like going out a nice restaurant.
Hi! I have a vagina and I identify as a woman, I am also a working professional in my 40s and I live in an urban area. I love museums and I think they make perfect dates and I often go to the same museums multiple times. The Boston Public Library was beautiful, there is an entire section that is dedicated to art and history. I didn’t see a single thing that you described during my walk through. There was a live taping for the local NPR station at the cafe though, that was pretty cool to watch.
I’ve noticed your complaints up and down this thread, I’ve also noticed them around the threadiverse for a while and I am beginning to see a pattern. You tend to be aggressively argumentative, denigrate women as a whole/complain about “woke”, refuse to see things from other people’s perspectives, and don’t listen to anyone’s advice. Have you ever heard the phrase “if everyone around you is an asshole, then maybe you’re the asshole”? Perhaps part of the issue is your behavior and attitude.
Anyway, you can look for ways to change or stay angry, doesn’t make a difference to me. Either way I hope you have a wonderful day ✌️
I am also a vagina holder! My First ever real date was, to the Wadsworth Museum in Hartford! It was very very fun! Ive been to them a few times, always a good expierence
dkppunk, I have this person blocked from previous encounters, no doubt for the reasons you listed.
Museums are a great date idea! Just sayin
Yeah, I don’t blame you for blocking lol. I don't block much because the threadiverse is pretty small, but I do tag folks often so I can remember things. I have this person tagged for misogyny and I typically ignore folks I have tagged for stuff like that. I decided to reply this time, but it’s pretty obvious why that guy hasn’t been able to hold a relationship for very long. Lots of negativity, complaining about women, and probably has his standards way too high, but oh well 🤷♀️
Museums make great dates! As do aquariums and zoos!
cool. every first date i have had in the past decade ended with the suggestion we go to a very expensive restaurant afterwards suggested by her, and when I decline or suggest a more modest place she gets very angry about how I have ruined our nice date.
nice walks isn't a thing most single women are interested in anymore. it's regarded as 'not making an effort', and effort is regarded in the expense of the dates. even bowling, axe throwing, are now the 'casual cheap date', but those are all expensive now. renting a bowling lane in my city is $50 per lane per hour.
Be good company and time spent anywhere becomes worthwhile. It has to start somewhere or capitalism will continue to price us out of even the simplest of human experiences.
this is what people don't get.
20 years ago you could go to a movie and dinner for $20 and walk around the city and do free stuff.
Today it's $150 bucks and you can walk around and look at homeless bums in the park, because all the free arts programs are mostly gone.
"Hey baby, why don't you come upstairs so we can avoid the capitalist machine of going out?"
most women aren't socialist/archaist. they exist, but they are a tiny minority.
every punk show is like 300 dudes and 10 women.
I was ridfing on the idea of "dating" being capitalist because it's expensive sometimes by implying that sex is cheap.
shitty sex is cheap. good sex is expensive