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I'm sorry if this breaks a rule for this sub or isn't in the right place.

I really don't know, most of the time I just lurk. I had an alt on Hexbear because they get defederated all the time, and I really enjoy their content, but it got banned because I called out Nazi propaganda about Ukraine(It's why I was banned. I'm not trying to talk politics I would like to focus on Lemmy), and I'm just very confused. The rules they referenced for the ban seem to barely apply to what I said, and in general, the server seemed like a cool place to be. I definitely felt like I was in a community where I belonged.

I'm just boggled and could really use some hand-holding on this one. In general, the rules of the Lemmyverse confuse me. I want to see everything, but the places I like most are usually defederated from the larger communities.

If this isn't right please please, just point me to where I can ask.

Thanks!

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[–] anon6789@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

In general, the rules of the Lemmyverse confuse me.

We're a loose confederation of servers, so there's not going to be any overseeing group keeping everyone accountable to a general set of rules. If that is a bug or a feature to you is going to impact your enjoyment, unless you continue to have multiple accounts.

I only really have some others for when there are server issues or the handful of times I feel like checking in on something defeated from World, so it doesn't bother me often.

Can't you just make another user profile on Hexbear?

[–] StarryPhoenix97@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

oh yeah, sure. I likely will. I can't say when, but before making a new account I'd like to understand the right way to act. Besides, I took a look at their application questions and I'm really not sure how my answers would land when their trying to keep that community purity someone else mentioned. Everyone deserves a space. I just have friends in Ukraine so I took that particular post personally.

I keep multiple accounts on various servers because I think it's better to be able to read all the points of view. I like Hexbear and .ml but they do get pretty wild sometimes.

[–] anon6789@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I can't give you much advice since it looks like you've deleted your controversial posts on this account. What is there doesn't seem any worse than half the people I see posting daily here.

Edit: plus do you want to mask yourself to fit in, or is it better to be yourself and find a place you fit in naturally?

[–] StarryPhoenix97@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yeah true. I don't post much but in the modern age when you say something in one community it will often get you banned somewhere else. The fact that I said I enjoy hexbear should key you in on what some of those posts were, but I tend to keep a neutral profile in neutral spaces. This profile wasn't banned from hexbear, but I wouldn't be suprised it it got banned now. It's the current order of things.

It's less about fitting in and more about keeping this profile more politically correct. Even if it fits in with the current modderation standards. I believe that in the age of AI anything said online is a data point.

[–] anon6789@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

I'm honestly not very familiar with Hexbear as it got defederated from here pretty early on in my time here I believe. I've browsed it once or twice to see what the fuss is about, but I can't even recall what was different about it. I'm a very low drama person, and am mainly here to teach people about owls.

I'm general, just trying to consider how your reply will be met by others before posting can go a long way or considering if you'd say what you're going to post to someone standing in front of you. I sometimes get a reply written for something, and even though I feel I may not be saying anything provoking, that it will just bring in other people that will want to make something confrontational out of it, and then I just scrap it. Not worth the annoyance.