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Societal expectations to move out of your parents' house when you turn 18. It's a scam to get you to become more profitable to corporate America. You're an adult now. You need to buy a car you can't afford, get a mortgage you don't want, insure it all to protect the bank, all to go to a job you don't want, but now need so that you can afford these "nice things."
But if you stay with your parents, even if you actually enjoy it, you're a failure.
Child here that moved out at 18 and now a parent to 3.
I hear you, and I know the status quo is changing but fuck me I want my kids out at 18. I lived in shitty roach infested places in horrible neighbourhoods. I've wondered how I would have money for food let alone rent. That's life. That's growing. I want them to experience that because without the bad times you don't learn to appreciate the good ones.
I know I'm alone in this sentiment I don't care. I will always be there for my kids in true times of need and I know the world now isn't the world of 30 years ago but fuck it. Survive or Thrive.
You're not wrong. But if everyone in the home is happy and the parents aren't pushing anyone out, society shouldn't determine that you've "failed to launch."
You're 100% correct. My youngest son is autism and will 100% be with me perpetually. I'm open to the other two staying longer too, but not for a free ride and not forever. I received no handouts in life and it made me who I am. Life is not easy.
Exactly what I was saying. You sound like a good person. Thank you.
Your children were born without their consent. I swear parents are the most self centered people in the galaxy.