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Some times I'd just ask "so what do you do for fun?", and then follow up. People usually like talking about their interests. I don't care nearly so much about their work and family. If they're huge into metal, or play football in a rec league, I want to know.
If you're lucky, one of their funs will be something you can talk about.
Same, I already do that, but that's not spicy. I'd have those same conversations with a colleague at work
I would recommend sticking with that strategy and working on it. Going too "spicy" too soon is risky, and doesn't really pay off better than finding someone who clicks with you on medium heat topics like "you saw Caroline rose play?? How was it?"
My girlfriend says that it's often more about flow than content. A well executed conversation about a common topic will go farther than an awkward foray into "so you ever done coke?"
I specifically made this post because I'm keen to experiment with more risky topics, if it doesn't work then I'll adjust or go back to more tame things.
I'm fine not playing it safe, if that puts some people off, that's fine, I've had dates like that in the past and they were great, so want to recreate that.
I obviously don't want to do this "an awkward foray into βso you ever done coke?β" this whole post is about finding a way to bring up topics you wouldn't talk about at work, but in a natural or not awkward way. Dates of mine have done this, so it's possible, and I'll like to figure out how