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How do you deal with the reality of loneliness? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by Alvaro@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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What I mean is, how do you deal with the logical conclusion that no one can ever truly be relied on and that you can always find yourself alone with no support?

Or do you disagree with this conclusion and think that some people can be relied on and that you can know that you won't end up alone?

And if you are alone, how do you deal with the inherent human yearn for others when you know that you can never truly rely on them?

Edit: To clarify, I am talking about personal relationships and not about professional or paid help.

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[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Poetry.

Journaling.

Make songs about the fact of the cruelty of this world of constant betrayals... and sing it alone. Maybe in front of a mirror so you feel like you are looking at a parallel timeline you and wont feel alone.

I have like lyrics written about the concept of secrets and betrayal and there is this one line that I've written I want to mention:

“你到底是谁，看不透你的心里
但没办法，生存依靠一起”

Translated something like:
"Who the hell really are you, I cannot see through inside your heart [as in: your mind, what you're really thinking]
But there's nothing I can do about it, survival depends on us [humans] being together"

So... just accept it...

Accept the fact that someone can declare their love for you and can totally stab you in the back

And be prepared for it

But try to not be too paranoid and accidentally shoot them first, careful of friendly fire

But at the mean time, enjoy the company of whoever you might have...

I've kinda accepted the fact the even my mom who constantly told me she loves me and I remember cuddling with her as a kid, could just totally do "bipolar" stuff that would harm me...

You need to have a shield... to be activated when you feel something isn't right.