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I am trying to tackle my urge to be reclusive by getting out, and doing old school activities, making an effort to smile or chat. I am not looking for anything formative really, but its a step towards making sure i don't feel lonely.
I try not to care what others think (not in an obnoxious way)...it really helps.
As with anything else, we should care what others think to a certain point and filter out the crap.
I don't care what terrible people think about me or what I do. Their opinion is trash if they are trash. People who have small interactions and react based on assumptions get dismissed as well.
But people I know who do understand context and strangers who are reacting to what is actually going on have thoughts that I do care about. I won't treat their thoughts as absolutely correct, but will consider why they think that way.
So I do care about the opinion of the person who I had ilited contact with, but had good opinions about other things and will consider why they might think that I was wrong. I don't care about the opinion of someone who always sees the worst in people, even if they have to make up a story in their head to do so. Whose opinion and what lead to it is important, and I have changed for the better because of it while also learning to not care about the assholes or misinformed.